Hi GL, thank you for your thoughts; they do make me think.

I do want to set up a family and raise kids of own with a loving guy at a certain time of my life. I think the misalignment with the expected timeline as well as the uncertainties associated with this causes my greater anxiety and frustration. Of course, I know my selfishness plays a big part in this too… messing with my emotional and physical well being. Maybe I should take a break from this relationship. But I do love him and miss him… I sometimes do hate myself for being like this…

Hi Anita, thank you.

To your questions:

Is your now ex boyfriend’s  mother unable to take care  of her husband? The mother is healthy and she can take care of her husband. But it is household chores, maintenance and running other errands (e.g. getting prescriptions) that require an extra hand.

Is your now ex boyfriend available to  take care  of his father 24/7; isn’t he  employed? He’s employed, and he lives at home. His father is still self-sufficient; it is just that he doesn’t have the energy to do anything else due to chemo effect.

He insists that he can’t leave the house because of the current circumstance. His mum needs him to run errands and do chores cos it is a big house, considering his dad does not have the energy to do anything right now other than the normal daily routine to keep himself fed and washed.