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November 11, 2015 at 1:57 am #87206
EsteParticipantTo me, responding to a post, is not about who is greater or whatsoever
Not everyone is going to say that! Lolz. Everyone responds with very different purpose(s).
Hence,
To me, responding to a post, is not about who is greater or whatsoever
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Om.
November 11, 2015 at 12:12 am #87204EsteParticipantHello!
Often, I reply because I empathise with what the person is going through.
To me, responding to a post, is not about who is greater or whatsoever. But it is about shedding some light and sharing perspectives. It may alleviate their problems and elevate them towards a solution.
So yea. Sometimes we help people, sometimes people help us. That’s life. ๐
Om.
November 10, 2015 at 11:25 pm #87202EsteParticipantHello Fern!
Haha. Ok, I can relate to what you have experienced. Well, just want you to know that, when we stop looking for a partner/boyfriend/girlfriend/husband/wife etc, the suitable person for you will come along. This is purely based on my own experience, after calling off my own wedding last year, I just stopped looking. I just focused on myself, improving, growing, loving and be kind to myself…and that’s when ‘My Man’ appeared. He’s so different from the guys I have picked and dated – in the sense that, just not my ‘type’ or so I believed. So, there you go. ๐ Love yourself and be at peace with yourself. Om. ๐
November 10, 2015 at 11:12 pm #87201EsteParticipantHello infralugel!
I was in a relationship from 2012 to 2014 with a man whom I got engaged to. We were supposed to get married in 2014 but I called off the wedding 3 weeks prior because his mother was basically interfering and wanting to take control of the entire event. I did not want to break up but eventually, he did. He could not stand up for us to tell his mom what he wants and eventually, even supporting his mother’s act. It was utter shame, disappointment, heartbroken and (fill in any negative emotions here.) So, we parted ways.
It was not easy because I did love him. But sometimes in life, things may look so horridly terrible. But we just have to take the leap of faith and trust ourselves with the decision made.
And, I was so glad that he is not my husband. I met a wonderful man 3 months after what happened. So a breakup isn’t all that bad. we usually find so much hurt and pain because our mind keeps replaying the memories and our heart keeps feeling how we felt then. The breakup taught me so many things. It taught me to love myself. Be kind to myself and trust myself. Sometimes, things does not work out, it doesn’t mean the end – but only better things are coming your way. ๐
So, take this time to explore and learn more about yourself. Date yourself. Love yourself. ๐
Om.
November 10, 2015 at 11:00 pm #87200EsteParticipantHello Lauren!
These feelings may come back again sometime. So when it does, keep this in mind – What do you need and want from this relationship?
It is normal for humans to want to feel validated. But, that is a ‘want’ you see. We need to validate ourselves, by loving, caring, be kind etc…to ourselves. It is only when we are at peace with ourselves, life will be better. Simply because we see how we feel and think. ๐
So yes! Work on yourself, constantly. Be naked honest with yourself. No one is going to judge you except yourself. We have fears and stuff but that can only make us stronger. ๐
Feel better soon! Om.
November 10, 2015 at 10:51 pm #87199EsteParticipantHello takeflight123!
I will be completely honest here with this question – How much do the both of you value this relationship?
Think about it and be real naked honest. That will give you the answer to your topic question.
Om.
January 27, 2015 at 10:53 am #71968EsteParticipantDear Emma,
To move on, is to accept and put it down. That is, accept that your past was a baggage and it is too heavy so, it is time to put it down.
It is in the past. It happened. But we learn, don’t we? We learn, by identifying the matter, accept that yes, immaturity played a huge part in making those decisions. And now, it is the present. Present, like what it is, is a gift to be unwrapped. Layer by layer which represents the future.
Till we unwrap it all and see what’s inside, what do you want to see? A beautiful green jade that is formed with years of cultivation to be compassionate, forgiving and joyful? Or a bag of nutshells, decomposed and stinky due to constant accumulation?
Give yourself time to accept your past and then put it down. There’s no shame or embarrassment, only if we want to tag ourselves with that.
Namaste.:)
January 27, 2015 at 10:40 am #71965EsteParticipantDear Locutis,
I applaud you for staying strong, positive and also, trying your very best to rationalise and find some peace within yourself.
Well, I believe your subconscious already have the answer but your conscious mind is trying to suppress the voice because of the fear of reality and coming to terms with it.
Try recalling, What was the reason that you decided to marry her. perhaps too, take some time to ask her the same question. You or both of you, will come to an answer.:)
Life is impermanent and Life is a series of moments. Forming happy moments or sad ones, you decide. If she fades away from this world, would it matter to you? Go back to the point that both of you made the decision to be together. That could be the strength that both of you just need right now. ๐
I’ll be praying for you. Namaste.
January 27, 2015 at 10:24 am #71963EsteParticipantDear poet,
First and foremost, kudos to you for staying so positive and strong while in the midst of healing or even coming to terms with fear. So anyway, here’s my two cents worth. Hope it does shed some light for you.
From your information that you have shared, I sensed two very distinctive features from your ex. First would be insecurity and second would be taking for granted.
Insecurity–from all the things that she has done(taking your friends away, calling you names, fear of relationship would end…) all these, are evidence to her insecurities. She is unable to love unless she gives herself a chance to do so. Sometimes, people have to learn it the hard way because I believe you have tried to help her grow but matters would not gain any ground if the self is unwilling.
Taking for granted–well, due to the fact that she couldn’t see the issue is with her, whatever good that people do is often seen as she deserves all of those goodness. Thus, she might feel that you should do what you were doing for her.
Hence, my question to you is this: When she appears in your mind, what is the first thing that you see and feel? That will guide you to your subconscious(which to me, is “the inner voice”). Listen to it. It never lies. Sometimes we just choose not to hear it. After which, you will have the answer to your doubts. ๐
I’d be praying for you, Poet. Just listen. ๐
December 15, 2014 at 7:06 am #69276EsteParticipantHey @strivingforsuccess ,
I just want you to know that all of us have the inner strength to overcome any obstacles as long as we believe that we can.
I was supposed to get married end November this year but I called off the entire engagement and wedding. It wasn’t because the love wasn’t there between both of us but it wasn’t deep and strong enough. It wasn’t the most pleasant scenario to have a fiance who allows his mother to run the show. It was the most painful and hardest decision of my life thus far but hey, better now than after marriage and kids right? ๐
So, I’m healing. Taking this time to do the things I want to do. Read, pray, chant, eat, daze…anything. Basically, anything that makes you feel content and appreciate the present. Because, every second is going to be a past.
Sometimes, we don’t need to be happy all the time. We can learn to be neutral too. No happiness, no sadness. Just serenity and contentment at work. It feels nice. Sit with the pain, hurt, grieve…it is ok. It will guide you to be a more positive person. ๐
ๅงป็ผๆฏๅคฉๅฎใๆ็ผๅ้ๆฅ็ธไผ๏ผๆ ็ผๅฏน้ขไธ็ธ้ขใ
Marriage fate is up to the heavenly decision. No distance can prevent the couple from being together. If a couple is not meant to be, they can be beside each other but never meet.I believe in fate and destiny. So, while we wait for our paths to cross with our “The Ones”, let’s grow ourselves with all the positive vibes. Who knows, it may accelerate the process because we are too attractive. ๐
Cheers my dear. -huggs!-
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