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Emma K.

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  • June 8, 2015 at 1:53 am #77840
    Emma K.
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    Hi Amethystt,
    if you really cherish that friendship with your that good friend that has broke with you, how about trying to connect with her again and apologise to her? Well you may not be in the wrong but sometimes we hurt our friends without knowing it. If I were you, I will try hard to reach out to her to apologise. In the end, she may or may not accept your apology by at least you tried and you know your mind will be at peace knowing that you have tried.

    To be honest, I am also in a similiar situation as you, i.e. i have many friends, some close some not so close but i also find it difficult to connect with them, including those that I am closed to. Very often, I find myself nothing to talk about even when I am in an outing with my closed friends. It is weird but this feeling has been with me for many years already and I did not try to find a way to fix it. Hence, I can comprehend the loneliness in you as I do feel very lonely too. Perhaps the way to kill our loneliness is to find some hobbies or interest to kill our time. You may want to find things to do that interest you. As for friends, I have come to realisation that not all friends click with us. If we want to connect with our friends, probably we also need to put in some effort to try to connect with them. It takes two hands to clap. I wish you all the best in seeking out true friends that could connect with you.

    Have a lovely day,
    Emma

    June 8, 2015 at 1:42 am #77839
    Emma K.
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    Hi Happygirl2015
    I fully agree with Inky. I would say No too if I am not comfortable with the person coming into my house. You know women has this instint that something not right may be brewing, that is women gifted hunch. And if you feel uncomfortable with this person invading your personal space, then you should not allow her to come in at all. Your husband needs to respect your feeling of your uneasiness of having her in the house. You got to be honest with your husband that you are ready or comfortable for his this group of friends to come to your place, instead suggest that you join them in their outings so that you could get to know them better and probably next time you could host a party for them when you have bonded with them. Your husband may feel happy to hear that you wish to bond with his friends rather than rejecting them outrightly.

    Just to share with you my experience in the past. I always say yes to my in-law side for them to come to my place to do whatever they want regardless of how unwilling i was. I ended feeling very stressful prior to the event and feeling very miserable after the event owing to the mess they created at my place. In reality, nobody knows how you feel unless you say it out. I now say No firmly to any situation that I am not comfortable in or with anyone that i do not like to associate with. I am definitely happier now as I could control how I want things to be.

    I wish you all the best.

    June 4, 2015 at 2:34 am #77728
    Emma K.
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    Dear Anyone, just imagine if you are a married woman with children, would you want another woman or women to come into your marriage? I always believed in what goes around comes around. I hope my reply is not offensive but is just my two cents worth of opinion. I pray that you will meet someone that you truly loves and that he is able to commit to you wholly. May Buddha bless you always.

    Hugs,
    Emma

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