Smita….your post struck a chord with me, cos I also struggle with being single whilst craving love and intimacy….so I hear you!! (& I’m 33y/o by the way!)

Prakhar is right though….do not rely on others for your happiness. Only YOU can make YOU happy….& if you turn to others to make you happy then you will set yourself up for recurring disappointment, when other people do not meet your expectations. Try looking inwards here (rather than outwards) through reading, meditation, yoga (or whatever you enjoy doing)….be completely honest with yourself and be kind to yourself….and you might be surprised with what you find!

I am also on a deeply spiritual journey and I am learning (albeit slowly and harshly!) that my singleness does not and WILL NOT define who I am as a person. Yes, it is part of me & a part that I struggle to accept often….but it is NOT all of me. I have started to shift my mindset and focus on what I DO have in my life and I have soooo many things to be grateful for….rather than focus on what is ‘missing’. Just this simple change in focus has been very helpful for me and has given me a lot of perspective. I have also learned to trust that I am exactly where I need to be in my life and to also trust that the same path that has bought me to where I am right now, will take me to wherever I need to go….as long as I open my heart and not create obstacles for myself along the way (i.e., letting my mind/ego get in the way).

There will always be times when we are struggling (and remember, that EVERYONE goes through these phases – but this is a phase and these negative emotions WILL pass, I promise!). But, it is the negative and difficult times in our lives that often present the greatest opportunities and potential for positive, spiritual growth. Look for the opportunities in each moment…there are tiny snippets of joy available every day, that we can experience even when we are feeling negative…the sun on your face, the birds chirping outside, a cold drink on a hot day, or whatever floats your boat 🙂 Grab these opportunities and appreciate these little moments…that’s what helps to get me through. Take time to ask yourself exactly what you have titled this post, cos you are right…there is a lesson to be learned here (& chances are it actually has nothing to do with being single!)…but only YOU can find that out! Take care 🙂

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