Hey all,

I want to to ask for some advices from you all about a case which i had to handle yesterday. I would be very happy if you comment on my behaviour in relation to this situation. So here i start.

Yesterday we visited one of our co-worker for BBQ after work with some of my other co-workers from the university, and of course my ex was also there. First we met all together in the front of the university and then we had to drive a bit far away from the city and i and one of my friend (she), my-ex were in the same car. I was all the evening so friendly and happy. I had fun with all others and he was having fun also and i was happy for him. He was not drunk but he had like 5 beers so he was also not so sober. At the end of the night we drove back until the university together to the meeting point, and from there everybody could go own home. In the car my ex was making jokes with my friend by touching her, but i was sure and still sure it was really in a friendly way. I had no bad thoughts at that moment. Until.. Then we went out from car, and i had to take a bus in 10 minutes to the downtown and they would bike to their places. Anyway, suddenly my ex reminded her that she told that she still had to finish some work at the university so he offered her to go inside and he would wait for her until she was done. It was already midnight. She thought a bit and she was about to say OK and then after i said Isnt it too late for working?, she was agree with me and decided not to work and she said no. Then she offered me to wait for the bus together for accompanying me and then suddenly my ex also said that he would also wait for my bus. I was really pissed off because he never ever waited the bus for me.. NEVER! so it was at that moment so obvious that he was there not for me accompanying while waiting the bus, but for her having fun together. Then i couldnt stay calm and show my feelings and said no please you both do not wait here, i want to stay alone and listen music but they insisted and stayed for me, and continued making jokes each other as if i was not there. Then the bus came i said bye and left them there. At home i was really crying all the night, i felt so dissapointed and sad. I dont know why they behaved like that, i am pretty sure that they were not flirting, she knows my feelings to him and she is in a long-term safe relationship with a very nice boyfriend and my ex was liking her a s friend. But i still felt so unconfortable and jealous and cheated.

So now please make comments even if you think that comments would hurt me. I need honest comments.. Thank you so much for reading this post..

Hi Kingmaker,
As i understood your ex is seeing another guy now but she is still texting you on saturday nigdt? Why is she texting? What is she asking? Does she want to go out? Or just want to check you? She seems to be confused to me, isnt she? Are you sure that she moves on? I think the best thing for your situation is you should give time for you both. But that can be just when you stay away from her for sometime. This 30 days NC would really benefit to you, at least for healing for both sides.

I am very good at giving advises but in my case he really moved on, he is calling me but rteally with pure friendly feelings. He is clear with our breakup decision. So the only thing i can do is accept that. I will do no contact also, but tomorrow is my birthday and he asked me for a small dinner, this dinner thing was our tradition every year for birthdays. At first i said no but he insisted. I think i will meet him for dinner i dont want to be childish. But later i will be the cold turkey when i see him, i will be still kind but i will put a real distance. We can do it together, we can count the days passing together. It can motivate both..
Have a nice day,

Thank you all for your help. I read a lot about this no contact rule, i have never attempted to apply it because i have had fear to loose also his friendship. Yesterday i ve talked him and he said that he is dating with a girl.

I registered to tinybuddha yesterday and i read several topics about relationships. All situations are particular but in fact there is one common thing for us posting here. We are having pain and looking for help. I mean some people are moving on easily after break-up but some not. Why can i not move on easily, am i not strong enough, or do i not know how to be happy. Anyway I will apply this no contact just for healing myself as Katarina said.

Dear Katarina, I wish you all the best with your no contact. I hope all is going to be fine. If you want to share your feelings during no contact period we are all here for you..