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    And I do really appreciate everyone saying not to move in with your partner until many years have passed or you become married.  I wish I could go back in time and change that and I didnā€™t so eagerly agree to live with him.

    If this relationship doesnā€™t continue, then I will certainly make this a stead-fast rule that I will follow.  And perhaps if it does continue, later on Iā€™d like to have my own place for at least a year just to get the experience of truly being independent from him.

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    Hi, Anita (and also thanks to everyone for their replies.  I really appreciate them.)

    Iā€™m not really sure how to elaborate more on the fear of disapproval from my parents.  Itā€™s always been there.  Thereā€™s never been a time in my life where I wasnā€™t trying to seek their praise.  I guess it evolved into a somewhat unhealthy obsession, perhaps?  I always took the hardest classes I could in primary school (AP, Dual Enrollment, Honors, etc.) and killed myself with 3-4 hours of sleep regularly to ensure I got the highest marks in all my classes.  It was this in combination with volunteering as often as I could and playing sports so Iā€™d look ā€œidealā€ to universities and get scholarships.  Iā€™m trying to develop much healthier habits now.  I stick to a routine; I exercise for stress relief.

    As far as his therapy, he hasnā€™t shared anything with me and I donā€™t ask him to.  I assumed if he wants to share, heā€™ll tell me.  Iā€™ve only been back here for five months, which isnā€™t a crazy amount of time.  But it certainly doesnā€™t feel like five months, either.  Maybe two months maximum is what it feels like.

    I have speculations about why he exploded, but Iā€™m not willing to be intrusive with what happens between his therapist and him.

    Thanks again to everyone for their responses!

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