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February 14, 2014 at 5:25 am in reply to: Regrets and Fear about Career Choice. Can I move on? #50992Devi ClarkParticipant
Dear Hyo,
Everyone has those terrible inner voices. They try to keep us safe, but actually keep us small.
And what I know for sure (having coaches lots of career changers) is that the closer we get to our dream, the louder they scream.
So perhaps it is a good sign that you are hearing these voices?
How do you deal with them? Either say ‘thanks, but I am going to do this right now because I really care about it’ directly to the voice or get right back to your passion and re-connect with what is important to you. However loud the voice is, it can never compete with the things that you love.
Devi
Devi ClarkParticipantHi Lani,
Have you heard of renaissance souls or scanners? They are people, like us, who like to do more than one thing and get bored if they just do one. But the risk is you end up doing too many things in a shallow way. Try googling renaissance souls or scanners and you will find some good supportive resources including a facebook group owned by Barbara Sher (who coined the term scanner in one of her books) and various books and coaching sites dedicated to this group.
Hope that helps!
DeviDevi ClarkParticipantWell done, Nora. I look forward to hearing where you go on your journey or self-discovery.
Devi ClarkParticipantHi everyone. I am a career coach, and this is a problem that thousands of people have. That is meant to be reassuraing, because it is also something that can be overcome. Here are some thoughts:
Thinking your way into a new career is almost impossible. How can you know what something is like if you haven’t experienced it?
That means you have to get into action. At first glance this may seem strange. How can you act if you don’t know what you want?
Well, first you do a mini-brainstorm of things that you have ever liked. It doesn’t matter what. Helping people? Working with animals? Working with numbers? Writing? Painting? Gardening? Running events? Don’t worry about what is on your list or whether it feels like a job thing. One client recently said he was the person his collegues came to when they wanted to talk to someone, which led to us exploring mentoring as an option.
Then take your list and brainstorm any jobs or organisations you can think of that might use these skills. You might also involved family and friends in this brainstorm.
Then you want to find ways to experience it, even if only for a short time. some ways to do that are:
* volunteer for a charity
* find someone who already does that kind of work and ring then and ask what it is actually like doing their job (don’t ask for advice on how to get this job, that is a turn off for them: ask for what their job inolves day to day and what sort of people do well)
* see if you can shadow someone for a few hours to experience what they doAsk your friends for contacts. Try things you haven’t done before, but which appeal to you or your friends think might suit you.
Trying things out, without commitment at this stage, is the best way to find out what you love.
And if you find yourself procrastinating, buddy up with someone. Hold each other accountable.
Good luck!
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