^ Thank you for the response, you have hit the nail on the head with how we feel about this house as well. Have a meeting scheduled Monday with a lawyer to see exactly what our options are as far as getting out of this house. It is exactly sunk cost fallacy, and realize we will never get the money back that we have lost. My concern is to get out of this place without losing any more money, or at least trying to stop the financial bleeding.

Parents are absolutely using, even mistakenly texted me on xmas eve morning rather than their dealer. More lies about it, and caused a huge blowout on xmas eve, just what everyone wants to do with their mother on that day…..Just really struggling with how to forgive and let go of anger. Also don’t forgive myself for being so stupid an naive when I bought this damn house. I realize they will never take responsibility for anything and arguing with them is futile.

I am becoming okay with letting go of the house and money, however I feel even if / when we do get out of here, my financial situation will be so screwed up with no savings, no credit and no house that i will still be unhappy with the decisions that put me in this mess…..i am my worst enemy when it comes to being hard on myself…..

Thanks for the response.

I can accept mistakes, but the rumination and false sense of security of purchasing something through family “shouldn’t” turn out this way just eats at me I guess. I didn’t have a very good reason NOT to get it inspected, probably my lack of negotiating skills, or whatever, I really didn’t want to haggle with my parents and growing up around construction I had no reason to think it would have had so many defects, if that is in line with my formula of how the world should work….i don’t know.

My therapist says ‘radical acceptance’ and it is in line with what you guys are saying here.

Thank you for the kind words of wisdom, upward and onward….

Thanks for the kind response, I do appreciate it! I guess we can’t change people and humans do make mistakes, however I am really tough on myself and can’t seem to find any peace. I realize I will never receive an admission of guilt or an apology, however it just frustrates me that someone could do this to their own child.

Yes, we do have a roof over our heads, granted and I should be grateful for that. Emotionally, everyone agrees I need to physically get out of the environment and I can’t stand feeling trapped, with no solutions as to how I can move on. That fact, the ‘stuck’ part I guess is what really hits home and affects me the most.

Peace to all……..D