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  • December 20, 2014 at 6:53 am in reply to: i never approached him #69551
    davidgoliat
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    The worst thing that can happen to you, is that you stumble and fall and break your back when you’re making the approach! Make sure that wont happen, and everything will be fine. Rejection is a possible outcome, but not nessecary in a negative way. Lets say it happens; Jim “rejects” you. You will obviously get hurt, but you will learn from it and move on. Isnt that better a feeling than not trying? 🙂

    Trust me, guys have feelings to. And maybe he feels the same way about you!

    Good luck

    December 20, 2014 at 4:50 am in reply to: I don't feel safe :( #69546
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    Since you’re dedicated to art, I assume you’re a very creative person, and you are shy(this is a good thing). Being creative, or a little bit “different” can cause alot of attention. Negative or positive doesn’t matter, but how you respond to it is important. The people you say bully you, do they really know you and know your potential? Do they know you like you know yourself? If they do, which I doubt, they are the victims NOT you! And if they dont know you, then you shouldnt bother at all! What gives them the right to affect your way of living?

    Take some deep breaths, things will get easier, i promise 🙂

    December 20, 2014 at 4:26 am in reply to: i never approached him #69545
    davidgoliat
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    You should approach him, and dont worry about the outcome. Whats the worst that can happen with your approach, and what are the chances for it to be reallity? My point is, you have nothing to worry about, even though you get this emotional explosion. Its a good sign!

    December 19, 2014 at 4:21 pm in reply to: pls help :) #69530
    davidgoliat
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    I know feeling different from others can be tricky. But remember, theres always two different sides about everything. So if you’re in a situation where you’re feeling sorry for your rareness, try to change your focus on the benefits of having that rareness.

    I dont know your case well enough to understand how hard it can be sometimes, but trust me. Change the way your dealing with stuff, you can choose the way you respond to everything. What are the benefits of being you? What can you provide to YOURSELF? 🙂

    I would think it like this: Rare/different = one of a kind, interesting. ADHD = Creativity, focus, fast problem solver and decision taker.

    I hope you can relate to what I’ve written 🙂

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    December 19, 2014 at 4:08 pm in reply to: i never approached him #69525
    davidgoliat
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    Sounds like your having a war within yourself! 😛

    You obviously have strong feelings, which is good, because you know whats right for yourself, and whats not. If you miss him, and he misses you aswell, you should meet up and just enjoy the moment.

    Approaching is about two parts, thinking about it and actually going it. First of all, you need to tell yourself that you’re going to approach him no matter what, and then go for it. Its the right thing to do, and you know it, so do it! Focus on why, why are you approaching him? Dont focus on how, how to approach him. It will happen itself.

    You dont need to think or set a goal farther than that, trust yourself!

    December 19, 2014 at 3:50 pm in reply to: He keeps me a secret from his family. #69522
    davidgoliat
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    Sounds like his parents have strict experctations, especially about him having a relationship. which can affect his focus on studies?
    In situations with his parents, I dont think he is “ashamed” of you two as a couple. But ashamed of not meeting his parents expectations about wanting the “best” for him. Maybe his parents have experienced events that has nothing to do with your situations, have given them views that doesnt fit with whatever it may be.

    From my view, you care about your boyfriend and support him on his goals and mistakes. Are his parents aware of this?

    I think his parents need a deeper view in a mindset, not you 🙂

    • This reply was modified 9 years, 11 months ago by davidgoliat.
    • This reply was modified 9 years, 11 months ago by davidgoliat.
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