I am the daughter who is estranged from her father (and his wife – not my mother) for the second time. The first time my sister tried to guilt me into fixing our relationship with the “you dont know how long he is going to be around’!. Well it goes both ways, as you say. None of us knows what is around the corner and just because you are older does not mean that you will go before me. I went to him last time to heal our relationship. I just sent a message to him (dont have her no) saying wish his wife a happy birthday – no reply! He (or they – they feed off each other with their negativity) will never come to me to apologise or heal our relationship in ANY way. I am done with their negativity and insensitivity. I applaud the parent on here that do their best to heal the relationship. I will write a letter one day – but maybe not at the moment as I have alot on.