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LalehParticipantGo with your heart, if your heart tells you to go to Australia do it, if you want to stay you will stay. I am from Canada, and i can tell you more than half the stuff you mentioned about Canada it is not true at all. I have lived in Toronto, Ottawa and Vancouver, and though Vancouver is beautiful and is always nice weather, I had to come back after few years because it’s always rainy. Toronto, is the big city you wanna live in, most convenient and has the energy a big city has, most of the cities in Canada don’t go below -10 in winter, and other than exceptions like this year, it’s only 2 months in winter that gets very cold goes -10-15 maybe max. that -20 is only in Alberta and Saskatchewan. So if it is only the winter that is keeping you, it’s not as bad as others say, it’s very hot in the summer here, right now is not that hot because this year was a bit colder, but the average after april is 25 c. So you have to worry about only from december till February. This is all I can tell you about Canada, but again I would say if you love Austrailia, go for it. you will find a way to stay 🙂
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DanubelleLalehParticipantI see your point Jeff thank you. But the thing is this time is not really about me ” going for it” because I was refused entry once at the border, I can not just go for it, I need a job offer or something to be able to enter the states, and since I don’t have a job right now in Canada either, they won’t let me in as a visitor either. So that is why I am saying, the signs are there but I am lost in what to do, because the only way I can go is to have an offer over there. So yes you might be right that I can’t just sit and things fall into my lap, that is why I am trying to figure out what to do, as far as job goes I am applying everyday, and seems like it has been blocked, absolutely nothing is happening. The criteria is a good idea, I might be looking in the wrong places. Usually when I want to move or do something, I make it happen no matter what, that is why I went for it for nyc last time, even though I didn’t have proper documents, and of course it was a mistake cause now I made my situation harder. At first I thought ok maybe I am not suppose to move to NYC, the guy I fell for basically disappeared as well right after the plan fell apart, and broke my heart, on top of everything, I am wondering why that happened on top of it. All of this was too much, but the signs are telling me to go, I’m starting to think maybe the signs don’t mean anything? I really don’t know what to do right now other than wait. I am basically surrendering, but needing to support myself and need a job asap is keeping me from relaxing and that might be the case for blocking the energy.
Thanks againJune 17, 2013 at 7:58 am in reply to: I don't feel good about myself unless I am in a relationship #37059LalehParticipantIngrid,
You pretty much described my life, and just recently I figured out a way to break free from that habit. I agree with Jeff totally, he has made some very good points. I was looking on the website everyday see if he has been online, and he disappeared on me with no explanation! Not even a goodbye. My friends told me you need to contact him and demand for explanation he owes you that, but I knew myself and my pattern, and I was tired of it. So I did nothing, I felt like if he wants to be with me he will contact, nothing can do will bring him back, but I waited and tortured myself for a month, so finally the other day I realized;
It is getting harder to hold and wait than to let go, so I just did. I signed off that website, and stopped checking him all together. I am still sad and I still remember things and miss him, but I see it as a past, IT IS THE PAST.
This is what you should do as well, be sad, let yourself to grief over your letting go moments, miss the good times, but see it as a past, it’s done. This guy is keeping you around for rainy day, let him go. rip off the bandaid.You said you know what you have to do but you can’t do it. So listen to your heart, it is your heart that wants to let go, it doesn’t’ want to hold on! That is your ego tricking you to think that is your heart, IT IS NOT. Remember what Caroline Myss says; It’s that voice that we don’t want to hear is our intuition… you know what to do, btu your ego is making you weak. Your true self don’t want to be with him, and I don’t believe you are in love with him anymore, you are just holding on to a pervious feeling and long time habit of loving him.
This trick has worked for me few times, anything you do for 21 days you will get use to it. Practice loving yourself for 21 days, you know you love yourself and not him, you know that.
Remember whatever energy you give out, you will receive back. Be that cool confident woman that your ex fell in love with, and you can attract a guy that deserves you. You don’t know what you want from your life because you have been living your life wanting to someone else’s desire(this is what I have been doing as well) And I finally broke free from it.
I made a decision last month, I am banning myself from going out with any guy, I am not allowed to want a guy or think about a guy or be with a guy or need love froma guy until I am totally happy with myself and my life. It’s like being an addict, me and you are addicted to love, we use love as to feel good about our lives, and it doesn’t work. It gives you a drunk feeling and it is not real.
I am working on building my life without anyone’s help, any guys attention, it is hard, cause I am breaking a long time habbit, ever since I remember I had attention of guys, and it was easy for me, so I got use to it, so I didn’t pay attention to myself, and my own life. I know, it is hard to break the habbit, but this is called a breakthrough.. the first step is to realize it.
I think you have been given the best gift of your life by your ex. And your heart has realized it but your ego and fear doesn’t wan to let it go.
Practice this and see how it turns out, you got nothing to lose; There are no men in this world, make yourself happy 🙂
I could write forever cause this is what I am working on as well. Let me know if you need to talk more I’m here
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Danubelle
http://www.danubelle.comLalehParticipantWatch Caroline Myss videos on you tube, you will get your answer. We all do have fate and destiny, but we choose how to go through them. So it means there are not mistakes or wrong paths, as all these great teachers say, it’s just important with one intention you make your decision, eventually you will reach were you supose to reach, in this lifetime or another. AND THERE IS NO SUCH THING AS LUCK. So take a breath and relax. It’s all moving energy, you were probably needed to pay attention to somethig, an energy you were carrying, or something else in your life, and universe is trying to grab your attention, I’ve had a ver hard year as well, and I know that , universe tries to grab your attention with small nudges, and if you don’t listen or pay attention, because you are too busy trying to fix things, or hold on to things instead of just be in the moment and listen, the whispers get louder and louder, and it repeats as many times as it needs to until you learn what you suppose to learn. You do have a choice, choice to listen and go down your path a lot smoother than you were going before, I learned this lesson in a hard way as well. Read the power of intention by wayne dyer as well, it will change your life.
Hope this helps
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