Memm, do you have any friends you can connect with?
Having gone through a break-up and rebound recently, it’s made me appreciate my family and friends more. Sometimes talking them feels more special than talking to my ex did.

Hi Crisana,

I’d say apologise to the people who you feel you’ve wronged and explain your actions. If you still feel bad, talk to this other girl to at least clear the air. That should make you feel more comfortable when at work in the future.

Good luck and let me know how it goes!

Daisy.

Hi Yellow Fox,

unfortunately, I don’t have any sort of experience like this to relate to but I’d like to offer whatever support and help I can.

It seems you still crave the loving care and support from your family otherwise you would’ve given the finger and moved on with your life.

Unfortunately, I think firstly, you need to accept them for who they are and try and understand why they’re like this.

Secondly, I think it’s great that you’re still making the effort with them. It’s obvious you care a lot. You could take a step back and see how they react. Do they suddenly miss you always being there for them and appreciate it more? Or alternatively you could just take a small step trying to get closer to them. Don’t open up yourself as making yourself vulnerable is hurting you more everytime. Maybe just organise a lunch date and first discuss frivolities and see where your relationships go from there?

I really hope it works out for you but my motto is appreciate the people that appreciate YOU. They don’t derserve you if they’re not grateful for you being in their life.

Good luck and let me know how it goes. Would love to hear from you!

Hi Ashleah,

I have to say, I can completely relate with you. I used to have meltdowns when when there wasn’t a routine as all of a sudden I had a choice about how I would spend my time. Is that the right choice? Should I be doing something else etc.?

This leads to my constant over-thinking which I’ve struggled with since I can remember.

My advice to you is:

1. Talk to people. Start with people you feel comfortable with but sometimes it can be even more uplifting to talk to someone you thought it would be embarrassing to talk to at first because you realise you have their support, too. Express your issues. Don’t be afraid to show tears or anger. Just let it all out. Keep yourself around people until you’re calm.

2. I’d then say, take some time to partake in activities that you enjoy and are calming. I like to meditate, but mostly sing along to my iPod at the top of my voice. That also gives me some energy and motivation to tackle whatever problem I have.

3. Look after yourself and get an early and full night’s sleep. When you wake up, listen to all your thoughts, good and bad and think logically how to tackle them. One by one. No rush. What do you feel compelled and motivated to do today?

4. If that doesn’t come naturally, you need some goals. Sit and write down anything and everything you want to achieve. Then choose something. Split it up into smaller steps. Take that first step and immerse yourself in what you’re doing. It will distract and motivate you as well as enhance your life.

That’s what I’m currently doing on my Winter break! Really hope this helps. Let me know how you get on!