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DanicaParticipant
Hello there
Well, when we have violent thoughts toward ourselves, of course our vibration is low, our perspective becomes limited and everything in life will be colored grey. We will look at life half empty. Our energy will also show physically too. I empathize with you, because I still have some negative feelings inside me at times, exactly the ones you talk about.. but I refuse to give it power. I have asked myself why do I overthink and drive myself crazy? I mean this does not feel good at all. Then I realized my ego was attached to being angry and resentful toward myself for whatever reason. If I were to remove these negative feelings, who will I become then? Who am I going to become without this false identification I thought was real? I invite you to please look inside.. And ask why you do these things to yourself. Because in reality you are none of what you think you are. I mean we can’t help but find identity from other people’s reactions but what has really been helping me is being detached with both good and bad responses. And growing into the person I’m meant to become. Fill your life with what you love to do for you. Whatever it is, you’ll know because you feel good about yourself. F whatever anyone else thinks because this is your life to live. No one has control over you but you. Who is the master of your piece? Who is the author of your book? You’ve got two choices.. To live your life in fear or to live your life in love. Because at the end of the day we’re all alone and by ourselves. Follow your heart (love) and I promise you, your perspective about yourself will slowly but surely change.
Danica
- This reply was modified 5 years, 4 months ago by Danica.
DanicaParticipantHey Jill!
Funny I bumped into your post. I actually came out of a pretty similar situation about 7 months ago, except the roles were reversed! I was the A-hole and he was the hard worker. Of course we had our differences, and we argued beyond my laziness.. but I can tell you that change is the inevitable. Coming from his perspective, it feels comfortable to be in that state. Always talking about change and improvement, but never really does anything about it. It feels scary to change as a person, especially when you have a lot of fear inside. Our mind is programmed to routine, then routine becomes habit, therefor change is extremely uncomfortable. You also can’t make someone change, they have to WANT to change. It sounds to me that you are settling and so is he. You could make things work with him, but he has to realize his own flaws as a person and actively try to work on them everyday. Otherwise nothing will happen and things will be the same. In life we always grow, and life is pulling you in a different direction. You’re growing but he’s not. So what do you do right? You do the best thing for you. Please choose yourself first, because there’s someone out there who can really appreciate you for YOU.
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