Hi. I came across this at a time when I am dealing with a VERY similar situation. I was blackout drunk and kissed someone else while I was out. I just was told by a friend that it happened. It was 9 months ago and I just was told. I am so disgusted with myself and harbor so much guilt and shame and sadness. He is the best thing in my life and I feel beyond terrible for hurting him like this. He doesn’t want to break up and we went to a counselor who said that my guilt is taking center stage and not leaving room for his feelings.

that is NOT what I want but I don’t know how to make more room for his feelings while I have so much hate for my actions.

im trying to find a counselor because I feel out of control and don’t know what to do. I don’t know how to live with this.

i just basically wanted to hear if anything good has come of this for you? Any lessons you can pass on to me? Anything you have done to forgive yourself?

id really appreciate hearing from you.
thanks

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