Lily,
He is using you for sex. Don’t be sorry for hurting his feelings. He doesn’t deserve you. He is treating you as though you are from Middle East. However, you shouldn’t say yes anymore either. Sex is a “benefit” of love, and love is something of a whole. Sex can come before love. But if it is to last, love needs to exist. You are normal. He is a selfish jerk. I would break this thing off and not talk to him anymore. I know it is easy for me to say what I just said.But sometimes you just need to say “enough” and shout him out. I know this is hard and he is making this toxic. This is not a relationship. Relationship is made up of at least two people. This “thing” between you and him is about him. Do things that make you smile. You deserve to be happy, to have someone bring flowers to you because that’s what he wants to do. Be shower by love and give it willingly. Be by each other’s side through hardships and happy times. “If you give him an inch, he’ll take a mile.” You don’t need him.
This is what I would say to him “you want those 70 virgins that you were promised, maybe you need to start following your religion’s teaching. I will not be used for your pleasure. You don’t respect my choices, I don’t need you, and you don’t make me happy. It is a two way street. My life, learn to respect it. Get out of my life.” Aim high, he is way below you.

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