@talkingwithtinybuddah and @vanessakay thank you for sharing, yes feeling you wise and happy now does help me, actually i came to the same conlusion (finally!) if that person a friend or a lover doesn’t not treat the way i want doesn’t to be in life, and what they do or say or THINK does not concerne me anymore :)) ,but i must confess that anytime he came back i feel weak again and feel that i could miss a chance especially when i feel him sincere sometime, i won’t lie it disturbes me alot anytime he shows up…but i’m trying to stick to the hurtful but releasing reality that i choosed even if i’m not toally convinced that’s he dind’t really care about me and i got to block my heart from feelings and my mind from memories, i don’t know how i’ll finally get through this but i know i will, thank you and excuse my english it’s not my native langage :)) love <3

thank you for your concerne :))

hi;
your answer is deep and kind and more helpful, but it’s funny it gives me hope in the other person, i want help him to save himslef but i’m healing from my childhood experience too, and i finally realise that i don’t need all that, but a part of me still want help him !
by the way this statement “How I got treated wasn’t really even about me. It could’ve been someone else in my position, and they would’ve gotten the same treatment. Sure, the hurtful comments are always personal, as otherwise they wouldn’t be hurtful, but the reason behind the comments wasn’t me, but the other person’s inability to handle their own pain and hurt” is comforting and so true :))
thank you for your kindness love !