Ashley,

I understand what you’re talking about with your roommate situation. I’ve recently moved out of my old apartment where I was in a super similar situation. I was living with my friend who I’ve known since I was 3 and his girlfriend moved in with us somewhat suddenly. Now, I like his girlfriend because I recognize that she’s a nice person beneath her hostile exterior but it makes a small apartment a really difficult place to live when this new person is making rules and yelling at people. She wasn’t willing to compromise on anything and would accuse me and others of stuff even after we told her we didn’t do something. I know that even though she acts like she doesn’t care what anyone thinks she actually cares a whole lot and that’s why she comes off the way she does. I feel that I must be sensitive to this fact when I decide how I feel about her but not when deciding what I think about her. I know she’s kind of mean but at the end of the day I think she’d pull through for me.

Nowadays though I’m living with another old friend and it’s a little awkward! Ha. We’ve also been seperated by time and circumstance even though we spent some of our best years together in our late teens and early twenties. I think that he’s under a lot of work pressure much like I was about 3 or 4 months ago and it’s affecting the way he interacts with others. I’m still recovering from the stress both put upon me by myself and others over a year or two’s time. It’s difficult becoming a normal social person again but we can do it! Especially when we have a friend that’s willing to try and put that friendship back into the situation. I just gotta stay fueled up emotionally by talking to my old friends and then projecting those energies back onto him!