Hi,when I was in my late twenties,I too was very shy and scared in many situations,I too resorted to drugs to get over these times,they gave me confidence and power.But were short lived.I got into late education at night school.I worked hard at a subject I was already interested in,but also met many people there to socialist with afterwards.This gave me purpose and pride in myself.At the same time I took steps separately to confront my problems in group of skilled counsellors.I never looked back,met a partner,started a family and my life was transformed.But that was many years ago,today in my mid sixties,different issues jump out and upset my life,however I still fall back on the techniques that got me out of trouble.if I relax and get lazy something always pops up to trip me up.At present my 30 year old son is depressed and out of work,and I feel powerless to help,It seems I am better at sorting myself out than others,but I must trust that he will find his way,

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