I can tell from your words that you are a strong women who will get through this. Just take it one step at a time and remember to grieve what you once had but know there is a new better tomorrow out there that will bring joy & happiness to you again (easier said than done but I promise it will happen) that does not contain lies. You are worth it! Don’t let anyone treat you differently. Your children also know this and will love you through this time. Most will tell you they are happier once the marriage secrets are out because then there is no lies and no parents tip toeing around. So, don’t worry about them. It’s like the airlines say “in, case of emergency apply your oxygen mask first, so you are able to help your children”. I pray your stress will ease.