Hello there!

In my own personal experience with these matters, I have found the reasons I dislike certain aspects of myself physically is because they remind me of the way I live my life.

For example, I have flabby arms (nobody else sees it, just me) and I dislike them. But my “flabby” arms are simply just a “reminder” that I would like to get fitter and I’m not doing it, so I’m now “lazy”.

In truth, there’s nothing wrong with how I live I’ve just got a lot of expectations for myself. So in order to overcome this I tried to be more reasonable and see my arms as part of me. Flab or not, my arms are still mine and as they reflect me and all that I do, I love them.

Honestly, your fine just the way you are. Just because you don’t look like a supermodel standards doesn’t mean your wrong and cannot love yourself.

It seems to me that the reason you cannot love yourself is because you want others to accept you. Your loving of yourself may revolve around others loving you. If someone said “I really love your eyes” you’d suddenly see them in a different light, wouldn’t you?

Fact is, you can’t live your life on the basis if what others like. Trust me when I say that if the people you were asking knew how to express love and compassion, they would tell you that they love you just as you are because all of it represents you.

If I were you, i’d stop putting so much emphasis on what I like and put emphasis into the aspects of my physical self that reflect my good qualities. Example: a scar for a time of emotional or physical strength ect.

Hope this helps.