Hello Lester, I gotta say I have been in your position too, with my first ex. I was raised in a very traditional environment and as a woman I was told to “save” my virginity for after marriage, so I really wanted a guy who had no sex past either, I thought it was only fair that if I had kept myself “clean”, my boyfriend should too. However, after losing virginity I became a lot more open minded about it. I felt I lost nothing that made me any less of a person, and thus, a partner with a sexual past wouldn’t have lost any value either.

I’d like asking you a few questions first:

Are your feelings out of judgement, or out of jealousy? Judgement would be as in, you think poorly of people with a sexual past before marriage. Jealousy would be, you would have liked being her first.

In any of both scenarios, have you clear why you feel this way? Why do you think poorly of people with a sex past, or why are you jealous? Are you afraid of being compared to her exes?

Lastly, and just for extra info and if you don’t mind me asking… do you have a sexual past yourself?