Dear Anita,

Thank you for always providing thoughtful responses. I do believe that I have dealt with depression for a long time and have worked with therapists to get it under control. However, going to France and leaving my support system proved difficult for me and my depression resurfaced. When I can home from France I was depressed for sure but it was something that didn’t have too much of an impact on our relationship. It was only when this state of coronavirus continued to get worse that I fell more and more into a depression losing my sense of identity and put a lot of pressure on my relationship.

I am looking for more clarity in your advice. You said if he wasn’t going to LA, I should contact him but because he was going I should leave him be. I am still pursuing jobs in LA because there is a big industry for my type of work there. I suppose I know we both need a new start and some space, but what I am wondering is if it is still a good idea to contact him, not to necessarily get back together but to discuss what happened and put ourselves on good terms again. I feel like if I was to end up in LA, there’s a chance we could work this out later once we’ve had some space and I just want to set us up to maybe be in a better headspace for that. I really care for this relationship and want to do all I can to make it work in some capacity. Is this relationship even possible to save?

Thank you again for all of your advice, I really appreciate all the help 🙂