Dear Nina,

Thanks for your thoughts. You grasp our situation well. I was not into him in the first months of our relationship. I didn’t feel the “love” and now, I kind of adore him. He is precious to me. I wonder if his condition is easy changeable and if there’s anything I can do to make our lives happier.

Let me include some things that he said or done that really bothered me.
– He was afraid of letting his cat went outside because he had a little problem with his landlord. He thought that his landlord will somehow hurt the cat.
– He wanted to shave his head so nobody will mess with him.
– He wanted to have children with me. When I asked why, he said to procreate and that humans has been doing that forever.
– He won’t be playing a lot with our future children, because he doesn’t want to be seen as a pedophile.
– Many times on different occasions, he say he would like some annoying person to go and just die.
– He hated the decision of his parents to sell a land (that belongs of them).

Her ex, with whom he went out for 8 years committed suicide. She had a mental problem. However, he broke up with her around 2 years before the suicide.

This is my first relationship with a man. I just eant to know if his behavior is common in man. I mean, maybe I am too peaceful.. I read somewhere that every relationship is a work, that it’s not always happy or easy.