Dear Carly

I so feel your pain.  I am in a much the same position only I have two daughters in law who have almost led to suicide over many years.  Both are narcissists who have broken my boys and turned them into so different people.  It’s a long story but to cut short my 4 grandchildren have all been used as pawns for many years.  I lost three of them for seven years because I wouldn’t conform to the craziness life first one used.  I was brought up in a very loving family of four sisters and one brother and have had a very happy Christian upbringing.  I grieved for my three grandchildren from when they were dragged away from my big close family, aged 12, 1o, 1.  They came back of their own free will seven years later, but all broken.  That was four years ago and have been trying to help each one.  But I am now 71 and it has taken it’s tole on me.  My second son married the very same type of person and have a five year old son who is totally controlled by the mother.  My son goes along with it as he saw his brother often have kids taken from him.  These women and their families have lost me my best friend of 38 years, so am grieving over this loss.  As I read your post tonight my eyes just filled up as I tried to get grandson for few hours tomorrow to see his cousins, but no once more.  I babysit during school times etc but can’t take him to play with cousins etc.  My heart is absolutely broken and feel like running away, but don’t know where and I would miss the children even though they are all broken.  Also I would miss my sisters and their families.  I was glad to know that I am not alone in this destructive crazy world.  I try to hang on by my faith, but getting so weary. If I were you I would agree with the others and move.  I know what these people do to you and you are young you can get a second chance at life.  Sending hugs to you. xx