Hi Anita,

I am referring to the same man in my previous thread and he confirmed his diagnosis with me. I did not state clearly but a lot of his actions in the past make sense because of his diagnosis.

He is by no means an evil person because ASPD is different for everyone. He is a bad person, extremely arrogant only cares for himself, and forms little lies to others for his own gain. He would never intentionally hurt anyone innocent  because it does not bring him any joy. He lacks a lot of empathy which was the biggest issue in our relationship, he would never empathize with me or understand my situation because he was too worried about himself.

The man my hope is attached to is the man he was before he hit rock bottom. He was genuinely trying to be a better person and believe it or not, he was selfless and kind. He wasn’t afraid to be emotional with me and was genuinely trying to understand me and empathize with me even if he has lots of trouble with it. I admire that about him but unfortunately, he does not care anymore. He does not care to be a better person or care about anyone but himself and this is why I have hope he’ll go back to being a genuine person and learn to be better.