Hi Maria,

Truly sorry for your loss and i hope you find the strength to move forward.

Perhaps the reason why he left is something and sometimes it’s nothing. Not everyone will love you for who you are- but you will always be enough- better than enough-for the right person. Beautiful enough, crazy enough, needy enough. The imperfect, messy parts of you won’t matter. They will on days drive the one you love crazy, but never enough to matter. Never enough to break up with you. You will be loved despite of them- sometimes because of them. In love there will be fighting, yelling, sometimes you will be crazy with hate, feel good, feel bad, want more, want less- but there will always be warmth, care, concern and you will be the best version of yourself.

I recently ended a 2 year relationship, engaged to be married in Dec, instantly regretted ( after 3days) and wanted him back, called to apologise but that ship had already sailed away. i know exactly how you feel, i have felt it too- tried to fix communication, he was always in a rush, could not stay on the phone long, needed to hang out with his friends, wash the car, go to the toilet. There was always something as to why he could not talk on the phone. I still want him back, but each day less and less. Allow yourself to feel all the emotions, do not shut them out, i have cried uncontrollably in the shower, laid on my bedroom floor and felt miserable.

Not everyone you lose is a loss- sometimes the people we love are not ready for the bending and flexing it takes to be in a relationship and that is okay- someone else will come along and it will be clear why it could never work out with the one who left.

Hugs.