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Helen, thanks to you too.. I believe, I am stuck because of my feelings… I still feel those emotions
buddha123ParticipantHi Neil,
Really appreciate your response.. It was a very painful and nasty separation. We had differences or financial issues, which I wanted to work out. But, he had few other problems because of which he couldn’t commit and our differences blew away the things. It was a very tough time for me.. I moved to another city but somehow wanted to work on that one more time. I had deleted all the contacts so, communicated with him over emails.. tried a lot to work out the things..but he had made up his mind. Said, I should choose someone else. It was really tough for me..I behaved crazily but he did not budge. I wrote him a long email, pouring all my true feelings and trying to convince him..after couple of month he responded saying he need money. I replied, can we talk. To that there was no response. no response for many months.
After six months, to my one of b’day wish post to a friend, his response was there. I ignored that…. I did not have him on fb or any msngr or contact num. In between he again msged me on whtsapp and did not revert again. After more than a year, he chose that last long email and replied hi.. I was pissed off him, so asked him, what he wants from me. Then again there was no response..
I always wanted to talk but it was closed from his side. He never took initiative to really talk or understand. I dn’t know whether he fell out of love or couldn’t sort out his life’s problem. After fighting and separation, I realized, I deeply loved him but any relationship involves two people. Till now, I haven’t been able to get over him..those feelings are still fresh. Its seriously almost three years of this mess. I understand that at times, we need to understand other’s decision of not loving us back but he was the one who started it and ended. It really hurts.
buddha123ParticipantHelen, you are right. In a way, I was frustrated….. but somehow, I still love him and that is killing me.. Don’t know, why feelings still remain even if the other person does so wrong.
buddha123ParticipantThe breakup point occurred when I wanted to get marry and he could not…. I was totally in a fix. That point he left me and though I accepted that and was living somehow.
buddha123ParticipantHi Mika and bodhisatva, Thanks for yours response. Breakup wasn’t amicable and I was in facing a bad time. I wanted commitment and he said, he needs time and somehow he gave signal that he is not happy on few things. We had differences on financial matters and future ahead. I tried a lot for about 6 months then gave up.
I was in a dilemma whether to move on or to keep hope. I was torn between these two options and suddenly one day he sends a message saying How am I doing. I did not want to get into long conversation and asked straight to the point. I still believe if he had really wanted then he could have spoken further but there was no response at all. But, deep down, I still long for him and that is killing me. Not sure what to do.
buddha123ParticipantI am going through an emotional turmoil. He had broke up saying he has personal issues and needs time. I tried convincing but in vain. After more than 6-7 months, he just said Hi a message on messenger. I did not reply to that. Then again after few months, he sent an email asking how am i doing. Since, i did not get into long conversation, I asked him, what he wanted from me & then he did not reply. Its been 2 months now.
Does it indicate even slight emotions from his side or I should just move on….
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