Ashlie I’m sorry you’re having a difficult time. I just very recently was involved in a break up because she wanted to just be single and figure out her life (she is young, 23 years old, and I am 27), and that nothing had anything to do with our love, compatibility, getting along or anything like that.

I guess just real quick what I’m trying to say is that just because relationships can be good and having a family can be good you never know if it really is between two people. I’m not saying we weren’t, because we were great, but then this happens…and i’m left to deal with it and be completely broken hearted and going through a really rough time now.

you cant put your happiness and all that on to other people and other things such as being a wife and having a family. and ya you do have to love yourself and be fine with yourself and there is no one answer on how to do it. I know it sucks but you just have to figure it out. Just like I am trying to figure out now again. I feel the lowest I have ever been in my life and feel worthless now since my ex left. But I do know in the back of my mind that as time goes on it’ll get better and easier. I just have to keep trying and being active in the process of getting through it.

I can’t say what you need to do, or should do or anything like that. If you’re worried that people wont like you for who you are thats nonsesne. why would you want someone to like you and want you for who you’re not? if you cant be real and genuine, you will never find someone else like that. and if you did find someone in that way, i can almost guarantee you would not be happy.

life is very unpredictable, anything can happen, at any time, for any reason. you never know. just like my recent events were unpredictable and I didn’t see it coming at all….and just like how I don’t know what my future will hold as well.

But I am sorry you’re feeling this way, it’s not fun. keep fighting though. all of this will make you stronger as a person and you will grow and mature. And I really need to take my own word and advice too because right now, it just seems almost impossible to do…

hope you feel better.