Dear Jade,
Of course you are not foolish, it’s absolutely normal. I understand that probably it is hard for you to talk with someone new on different parties, clubs or bars. Maybe you should start from online datings, there you could find someone who could attract you not only outwardly, but also their views on life or something else. There are a lot of such sites for example I’m using kovla.com/datings/us/richmond. Try it, hope it will help you.