I completely understand the turmoil you are living right now….my ex of 10 years continues to contact me and try to get me to let her come back and let her control everything about us….she controlled everything about us for over 7 years ….the last 3 years I started standing up for myself and now after 3 months away from her age tells me that if I would have never stood up for myself then we would still be together….doe her to say that to me is quite unbelievable. ….when she says things like that to me I am left speechless and hurting…I tell her time and time again that I apologize for my mistakes and now I truly hope the best for her and her kids….I will miss you but I really need to be left alone….she then had her 14 year old daughter call me and ask why I did not want to be her stepfather anymore…….that conversation continues to fester in my heart and mind…..I tried to explain without blaming anybody that her mother and I have just grown apart….I love her kids deeply….I was extremely close with the 14 year old daughter….I am not sure how to completely get away from them….I know it sounds horrible….but for the last three months, I have allowed my ex and her daughter to vent all their negative feelings about me and I am just trying to explain why we are not a family anymore over and over again..I do not call or text her at all….I have all these crazy feelings I don’t understand on any level…..DAZED AND CONFUSED….ANY ADVICE PLEASE?