Hey Anita, It has been a while since i was here, just taking one day at a time, and I am feeling better today. How I knew him is that he is a straight foward person and in this case I don’t why he has been behaving like that.

New update: I just want to give you a kind of a story of how he has been behaving and i would want you or any other perswon to help me internalize this behavours because i think i am overthing everything. The last time we had contacted with him he was not willing to talk to me, so i break contact and stop reaching out to him for a while, one week later he contacted me to ask if I was at home so that he could return my stuffs back, and I remember I reached out to you since it was overwhelming for me. When I got home i didm’t bother to contact him again so  I stayed quiet. And when I came to internalize the situation it was very wiered  since he knew i was working to ask me if i was at home, i guess i am stupid to overthink this instances but i can’t help me. The next day my day was okay and he called me at a wierd time in the middle of the night which he never did even when we were together, he was asking why i did not reach out to him the previous day, it was awkward for me. He said we will talk, and was asking about the schedule i had the day after, which i was also working, and i told him that in the evening after work i will reach out, which i did. That evening when i reached out to him he said he was still working and we will meet over the weekend. Over the weekend we talked over the phone and he was somehow too much engaging than the previous times, he was initiating conversation asking about how i have been, where i was , and he added that he is feeling somuch unwell that we cannot meet. We met finally yesterday, he came to my house, brought my stuffs, but not all of them, we talked, but obviously the reasons he was talking that brought the detarchment felt like are too petty and can be resolved. Funny thing is that we even talked about the solutions, i was very composed then when we were talking, i expected him to take his stuffs back too but he didn’t ask for even his keys. He said he has been missing me and he will miss me. Which i was wondering why he would mention when he wasn’t willing to work on our relationship. Later after  he went, i opened up my things to rearrang e them and I found some bars of chocolates. Which has been for a while been a gesture that he send me when we were in  a relationship. I feel like he is giving me mixed behaviour that i don’t know how to interprate them, and some point i have hope for both of us and at some point i don’t. I feel like he his testing my reaction with his behaviour and i dont liked it. Help me Anita in interprating.

Hey Anita, for a week I thought I have been okay, i listen to motivation, and even read articles concerning break up so that it can boost my everyday functionality. At some point i even forgot about him in a while by keeping myself busy. So today he called me , i thought maybe he wanted to talk, but unfortunately he wanted to know if am at home so that he could drop my stuffs, but I have been at work. I think i am not ready to receive my things and i still hope that one of this days he will want to talk. I feel like i am breaking again.

Personally I wish i was feeling at all better, but it’s not. When he said no it’s not, it was the talk that he didn’t want. And we had agreed two weeks before when we had given each other a two week break that we are going to have this conversation since he was avoiding it. Our arguments have never been serious and we usually resolve immediately and they were rare, we have only argued like 4 times in our two year relationship. We had this thing that we should not go to bed while angry at each other. And the main reason  why he wants us to break up he does not give it clearly. And when I want a conversation with him he avoids me. I feel very sad right now since we didn’t even have a disagreement before he said whatever he was feeling, and here i am having a blurry vision since I don’t know what really happened to my relationship. I know maybe he has already made up his mind, but i believe that the relationship started when we were two and at some point i feel we should have this conversation for both of us to reach a common ground. Maybe then i would understand him more, and also maybe he would understand my point of view too.

I really understand what you feel, I would like to share my story as I am facing a potential break up today. My guy of two years on  one month ago told me that he is not feeling the same way anymore, we have the most perfect relationship that when i try to figure out what might have happened, i still do not understand.  I tred to ask him what brought the problem he said it nothing his feelings are not just the same and he feels like we should break up as he doesn’t want a recurrence in the future. We agreed to work out for a moth on the connection he said there is an improvement but not enough, i tried to talk with him but he said he need some space to navigate through his feelings which we did a two week break. The  two weeks is now over but he has already told me there is no way to save our relationship. We agreed to meet for a dialogue, but i guess i know deep down what is going to happen but still in denial. Seeing all of you go through something similar is giving hope, but i don’t know if i will be able to handle the breakup well. My Heart is already heavy