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November 5, 2025 at 3:04 am in reply to: How to stop holding grudges against nasty people from my past #451559
kyleParticipant[quote quote=451508]Hello Kyle:
I like the clarity you offered in your reply above, your first in tiny buddha, I believe. Thank you 🙏
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Hello Anita, Thank you for the warm welcome, although I would apologize as it seems I truly didn’t offer clarity.With respect to not allowing forgiveness to affect one physically, I certainly did not mean to imply that it would erase any of the physical scars of trauma.
Rather the physical effects caused by the emotional, mental and spiritual toll that holding on to anger, resentments and hate can have on our bodies. Anxiety, depression, increased heart rate, appetite loss, chronic pain, sleep loss and many other negative health outcomes can result from these negative emotions, especially when they are held long term.
At least that is my understanding, I am not a medical doctor and so please understand that.
November 4, 2025 at 7:18 am in reply to: How to stop holding grudges against nasty people from my past #451499
kyleParticipantMy view on forgiveness:
The thing about forgiveness is that it’s really about us and not them. whether or not they are aware you’ve forgiven them is not as important as the act of forgiving is to us.
If they know you’ve forgiven them and accept that, well it’s just a bonus.
Forgiveness does NOT mean you are okay with what happened.
Forgiveness does NOT mean you will allow it to happen again.
Forgiveness DOES mean you will no longer allow what happened to affect you physically, mentally and spiritually.
Forgiveness takes back the power that resentments and hate and anger drain from our being.
Forgiveness can be given in person, in private (without them knowing) or even to someone whom is deceased.
We are allowed to forgive ourselves as well! -
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