Hi, this is totally unrelated, but I could use some advice. I was walking with my friend the other day and all of a sudden she spit on my face. It was accidental, but I thought it was purposeful and spit on her back. I did it as a joke, but I definitely took it way too far. I feel terrible and apologized, and she said it was ok and thought it was funny, but I do not know what to do. I feel super guilty.

Dear Anita,

I can’t think of any lies I’ve told to my family recently, but I have felt guilty recently.

Dear Anita,

those people would be my parents, grandparents, and favorite cousins. I can’t seem to get out of my head. I have thought about every situation which could possibly be signs that I was gay, and my mind just instantly thinks yep your a lesbian. Every times I notice a girl my mind says that too, but all of this makes me sad and uncomfortable. I am scared of how long this could last, and I’m scared I’ll never figure out my sexuality. My heart always told me I was straight. I only ever wanted to look like actresses, never date them, but now it’s like my mind is constantly trying to know if those were crushes. All the things I know were crushes were on guys and I wanted a boyfriend and husband so bad, but now I can’t get out of my head.

Dear Anita,

some of my classmates have thought that but a doctor never has.

Dear Anita,

I still always talk loud.

Dear Anita,

I don’t remember the first time. It has happened so many times. I do remember one time in the fifth grade, my whole class had a text group chat. I wasn’t on it because I had not had a phone. One of my closer friends at the time asked if they could add me, and people in my class said that they didn’t want to add me because I’d talk too much on TEXT! They also said they should create a group chat with me on it that they never used. I felt so upset. I cried multiple times because of that.

Dear Anita,

I could not make friends as a kid very well, and I would usually sit alone at lunch. It came to the point where the pe teacher would come sit with me. A lot of my friend groups and friendships fell apart because I’d always start drama, even though it was not purposeful. A lot of my friends say they are depressed, and I don’t know how to help them. One time, I said you should think of happier things so you won’t be sad. Of course that was the wrong thing to say, and my best friend of four years said I was being toxic. That really hurt. People say I talk to much too. Even though everyone else could be talking, I was always the one shushed or told I’m being too loud. I had gone to therapy to help my talking and friendship making before, but apparently it did not work. My dream guy or dream life was my way of thinking of a future where I was better, and people would be nicer to me. I’d have a good group of friends and the perfect soulmate. Now, I feel like I can’t think of that perfect life anymore because these thoughts keep getting g in the way.

Dear Anita,

My mom just got me my first therapy appointment. I don’t know how to explain it as I said, but I tried changing my mindset to I might be bi are lesbian now, but something in my mind tells me that does not feel right. You seem like a very good person. Thank you so much for helping me and taking the time to talk to me. I told my best friend and she wants to talk to me about it but I don’t really want to. I don’t know why but I feel more comfortable talking about it with people I’m not close to. I really appreciate it.