From the little information given, it sounds like he has a porn addiction. However, from a casual porn user’s standpoint, I don’t project porn into my relationships and I actually look for girlfriend videos that show compassion.

It sounds to me like there’s an inner confidence deal with yourself that extends beyond porn. I’m not going to let someone else make the decision for me to view it or not – that’s my decision. I don’t have any emotional investment to the girls I see online and they don’t have one toward me either.

I like to pleasure myself, and if it’s not to porn, it’s going to be to images in my head. In relationships, those are usually my partner and I usually project the image of my partner into the porn, too. But if it’s not my partner, it is a fantasy of someone I know that I have zero intention of actually carrying out. That’s not cheating. I don’t expect my partner to constantly sexually satisfy me, so I take the rest of that weight. I am very loyal and if my partner doesn’t trust me, then that’s her problem.

Nothing will replace the intimacy of sexual contact and if my partner and I agree that porn is substituting that then I would change it, like a good partner will.