Hello Shannon,

(It’s my first time posting on here, so please be gentle, ha)

Your parents having you in their bed was something which sounds more like it served their needs, and didn’t really consider yours perhaps? Same with your Father crashing on your bed after a few drinks.

Perhaps your Father was just a bit too inappropriately physical during the phase of your life when you were independently discovering sex and sexuality? Maybe infantilising you a bit past the point of appropriateness.

My advice is to look into Narcissistic behaviour and compare your Father’s behaviour to see if anything sounds familiar. After that look into OCD and intrusive thoughts related to CPTSD related to narcissistic abuse.

There is something Narcissistic parents do to their children called ’emotional incest’ (I know it sounds bad but it’s very common for NPD personalities) and as I understand it, this is where your emotional boundaries are violated, instead of the physical.

Regarding the dismissal of your concerns and emotions – I would say this is also a common trait of Narcissistic personality disorder, who just flat out deny anything they do that might be wrong.

(Besides this kind of analysis, I’ve read before how a girl’s Father serves as her idea for what the ideal man should be – but there’ll be literally millions of women disputing that.)

B