Hi Anita,

Storm has passed & all is fine…I managed to weather the storm alone with my 2 cats…We are ok.

I have been in a funk for the past few days, not talking to anyone, just managing life.  It seems these days it takes all I have just to get up & deal with things. Paying bills & dealing with the have tos in life.  My Birthday is next week  & I can’t believe another one will come & go.  Life as such.

Have a nice day!

Bella~

Hi Anita,

Wanted to touch base since it has been a while…Nothing exciting as of lately, we have a hurricane suppose to hit Sunday (Pray for Everybody in the path)…

Will be in touch & have a nice weekend!

Bella~

Hi Anita,

It’s been a few cloudy days for me, I never contacted my ex, but I feel sad.  Have been thinking about the past & have concerns about being alone.  Many people seem to feel alone these days…

I have things to do & take care of, but I still don’t feel any better.

I will keep my chin up & enjoy the day.

Have a Good Day,

Bella

Hi Anita,

Wanted to give a quick update…My new friend is still amazing & a refreshing change in my life…Taking it slow & he will be coming for the weekend Friday evening.  Plans to go out to dinner with my girlfriend & her husband.

I am taking things slow & everything else is starting to fall in to place.

Have a Great Week & will send a quick e-mail over the weekend!!

Still have not heard from & have not had any contact with ex for about a month, or so & it feels great!!!

Bella~

Hi Anita,

Amazing what a few glasses of wine & a good nights sleep will do…The guy I went out with started texting me after I got home from our date & it went on & on…I have decided not to repeat the date.  I haven’t drank in years, as I am not much of a drinker, but I did have a few last night & probably really relaxed well for the first time in months…Watched a movie & thought about life & how good it can be without all of the fear I had been burdening myself with over the past few months..

I will keep my date with the new guy, as it still has possibilities & the door is open…The friend I have know for almost 30 years was not what I remembered.  People do change after 30 yrs. (haha) Since he has been single for so long he is really set in his ways, which are not suitable to my taste…One advantage of getting older & wiser.

Have a nice day & will fill you in Thursday~Busy week & it feels “GREAT”~

Bella~

Hi Bella,

It feels Great to be off of PI Duty!!!

One good thing about PI ~ing is I feel like I have found out all of the down & dirty, and not much would shock, or hurt me anymore than the pain I have endured in the last few months…(I never imagined my ex was capable of his actions in the last few months) I am glad I discovered what I did…If not,  the pain would have come little by little from people telling me what he is up to…Now, no shocks!!!  I am relieved I know what he is really made of…

Today is going down a “New Beautiful Path”…

Wish me Luck!

Bella~

Hi Anita,

I would like to share today on a positive note in the right direction for healing & my positive feelings. I have been causally  talking to a friend of mine since the break-up with my ex.  We worked together approx. 28 yrs. ago & have always been distant friends.  He is a person of high integrity & ex-military background which I grew up in & understand very well. He was married when we worked together, but has since been divorced 15 yrs.  He has never dated anyone seriously since his divorce as he is hesitant of commitment.  I always knew that about him & it intrigued me.  (rare in men)  Which is fine for me because I prefer not to have someone like my ex that want’s to jump from lily pad to lily pad being in Love so often & so quickly.

We are meeting for lunch today & then a movie and if we decide afterwards ~ coffee & chat.  We have been talking on the phone several times a day & he is very considerate, I can tell he listens to what I say I am doing for the day, because he will call after the fact & ask me how things went.  Very refreshing from what I have been living with in the past 8 yrs. with my ex.  These feelings are reminding me of new possibilities in a relationship.  I am not looking to fall in Love, I would like a trusting friend and someone to care about & the same towards me.

I am not expecting Love, or anything amazing,  just looking for a friend & the possibilities of a relationship.  Since I knew him years ago, I feel like I know a lot about him without since we have a long friendship & because I knew his wife also. (We all worked for the same company & he still works there.  He doesn’t play games & he is very responsible.  He is a little low key & has not traveled & he is not a materialistic person.  If anything,  that would be one thing that could cause differences in us since I have always traveled  & I do like nice things.  But those are minor compared to what I have dealt with in the past.

I am happy to feel comfortable enough to want to spend time with him.

I will fill you in tomorrow & let you know what happens.  I want to take this nice & slow and make sure of my true feelings.

I am not saying I still haven’t been thinking of my ex, because I have.  His Birthday is next week and I always acknowledged it and was wandering if I should send him a card, or a text.  Something simple from me & the cats.  I wouldn’t leave the door open or anything, just a simple “Happy Birthday” text.  What do you think??

Bella~