Dear Peggy

I decided to talk things out with her and she was actually lazy in replying my messages. But the way she phrase it was wrong, I asked her regarding about why did she phrase it in that way as it is very hurtful and sad to a friend and the meaning of the message seems so negative. She did said she wanted to say she is lazy but she is afraid I might nag at her for being lazy all the times.

But I told her that it is about the phrasing but glad that she was being frank with me than to continuously ignoring me. Maybe she just need a breather from me.

But I did told her if I did anything that offended her, it is better for her to say it out.

But better than I think too much?

• This reply was modified 5 years, 4 months ago by SteveRodger.

Dear Valora

Maybe she is going through something. Maybe it is me.

I have a few possible reasons as to what she is reacting in this way. But I do not want to push her to give a reason. We used to be on such a good terms until a misunderstanding happened, we got hurt and even though we talked things out. It still takes some time to repair the friendship.

Dear Valora

I have no idea if how she is treating me has got to be related to her wanting to cancel the trip. But I did asked her last week twice whether if the trip is on which she reply yes.

I even asked her if we want to cancel the trip which she declined no. I have asked her a few times if the trip wants to be cancel which she declined so I am not sure if it is gonna be related to the trip.

Hi Anita

I care about her a lot because she is one of the few friends I make at work that goes beyond work level.

I have been trying to figure out what I did to have offended her in any way.

Or maybe simply she just really choose not to reply me

Dear Anita

For the past two years, this “friendship” has been nothing at all just because of the one remark that she said towards me?

There is no space for her to be angry or even any other reason that is possible?

Hi Peggy

I did ask her if she wants to proceed with the trip and if she is okay with going with me since she is seeing someone but I did not receive any response from her. I even ask her verbally if she wants to cancel the trip or postpone it which she  did not respond to me either.

What is a passing friendship? I have known her for two years. I will considered that we are colleagues to acquaintance to friends to good friends. We used to talk about everything under the sun. There are some stuff that only I know about. Things have been very rocky and we both admitted that we haven’t been good friends towards each other.

I feel that I respected her decision by asking if she wants to cancel it. I am neutral about this trip so it is up to her and since she is the one that initiated it months ago.

Dear Anita

The harsh remark was: Nothing uh, I just choose not to reply you

No reason. Just meh

At first, it wasn’t that harsh for me but when I share it with my friends. My friends are astonished and surprised by her remarks. They describe it as very harsh.