Thank you both for taking the time to respond, it means a lot. I think you are right and will take this all on board. He needs time right now and so do i. I think I’ve just been struggling with accepting this is how it has to be right now. It just hard to watch a love one in pain and the first instinct is to try everything in your power to help which can ultimately push them further away. He knows i am always there for him, so if he needs me he will ask. In the meantime, i will focus on me 🙂