Hello Rosey,

Hunches can be right, but what matters is that you realize that the issue is in your mind and in your self. Once you go about changing these things, you will attract the best job for you. Its all about the choices you make from now on. I’ve often gotten angry, upset and saddened by the way I perceived I was being treated. The result was the I dwelt on it the less effective I was in whatever I did. The less energy I had for improving myself, the less energy I had for helping others and volunteering. What can you give to someone else when you are running on empty? Try to thing of your negative feelings as things of the past, even if they only occured a minute ago. If you take away its present nature of the feeling you can take away some of the power it has over you.

Also, Im going to disagree with Lizzie here and say that you shouldnt think about the “job you love and deserve” right now because your mind is in the dumps now and whatever you’d attract in this state won’t be good for you in the long term. The first thing you should do is Dispell the illusions. Look at the reality for what it is. Then acknowledge that you can change reality but its an ongoing process that involves work. The first step is letting of the past and all that was created there. (That means letting go of the hope of that job because its already in the past) Think about what would feel good for you in the present moment. You maybe feeling fear and anger about the job, but be aware that the words that come out of your mouth and the thoughts that come from a place of fear and anger are not the truth. The anger is just passing through and will soon be gone. Don’t get stuck in that place as it will make you weaker and give you less energy to accomplish your goals. I believe at our roots, we all want to do good things, right things, but we get lost. Whether, you’ve been lost for 1 year, 5 years or 10 years, you can see a dramatic change in your life and become a completely different person. Just make a commitment to yourself, as I did right now, that ” I am going to change my character and my life for the better, starting this moment”. Anything that’s holding you back, let it go.

Counter thoughts of “Im lazy”, with “I’ve bought into this belief that I am lazy and started acting like it. I accomplished [this] and at [that time] and this shows that I can excel at something and handle many tasks at the same time”. What is making you so afraid that you feel paralyzed or that you prefer doing “nothing”? Identify the underlying thought that is causing you to act in a way that is “lazy” and let it go. After you’ve removed that underlying thought (even if its been there for 10 years), being active will come naturally to you. Counter thoughts of “someone hates me and is out to get me” with “this is an illusion I have created within my own mind. My own thoughts of bitterness and fear have created these false beliefs. If I let go of my own anger, hatred and fear, these attributes will disappear from others. ” Be honest with any bitterness and hatred you have within yourself. Many, including me, are embarrassed to acknowledge that exists within themselves, but if its around you, its most likely within you. Acknowledge it and let it go. Counter thoughts of “I’m not good enough”, with thoughts that “I, just like every other human being is given excellent raw material and I can choose to make myself better.”

Decide what you want. What would bring you peace right now if you felt no pressure, no fear or psychological influence from anyone else. Sometimes, we are often implanted with other people’s ideas of what we should be and what we should want. Do you feel that wanting what you want makes you selfish? Do you feel that your dream is not socially acceptable? Have people close to you in the past disapproved of your dream? If that’s the case, acknowledge that you may have been influenced and are not 100% certain of what you want. Keep in mind that if you are a human being, you have desire. If you have no motivation, something in your mind is obstructing your desires.

Give yourself a limited amount of time to ask and answer these questions, a day, a week (I’ve often sat too long with a problem [a year] and ended up falling back into old habits). Then move forward.

Hello, I’m Listening

What’s the point of living with this fear of being hurt whet you are happy with the person you’ve found? They are not concerned with your past and seem stable enough to go through whatever, with you. Why ruin what is good with fears of the past? If you want to protect yourself and this person take extra precautions, but being scared of all the things that could happen will probably exacerbate your problems. If you know you;ve found the love you’ve wanted and its actually within your grasp, treasure it.