Hi Sabrina,

You have the answer hidden in there. You know that you guys need to take some time off and get a grip on your situations. I can understand that the more you think about him, the more are the contradictory thoughts. Right now, you have put all your baskets in one basket by focusing your entire life, the present and the future on him. While it’s definitely not wrong, with this, you have become vulnerable to anything and everything revolving around him. You feel so heavily invested in this that you want something or the other out of this, and very quickly at that.

But you need to try and look at this as not “everything”, but “something” special. Be your support first,when you feel bad/good, feel it within yourself first. There needs to be some reflection , and deliberation on things outside the relationship, understand how the life is, financially, emotionally, get a clear understanding of what the life is now , how can you both sort the issues out ? Don’t just give up on the present and the future.

Time and deliberation. Thinking, is what is needed.

Thanks,
Ashwin

Hi Sapna,

It’s really weird with the definition of friends. I feel the definition is bit superficial. Many people we know , are better off as acquaintances.I have never had many “friends” per se, but I have a couple of folks in my life, who have woken me up at 3 in the morning, cried till early morning and been there with me when I needed them too. There are days when I am not in contact with them, but the next time you meet these guys, you know and you feel that nothing has changed. And I’m happy to have found these people. And I’m sure you will, too. I can understand what you have gone through, and I can be of some help, I hope. I can be the voice who can listen.

Thanks,
Ashwin