Now he doesn’t want to see me.  He wants to be left alone.  I am completely devastated.  He doesn’t want to open up to me. He told me he needs to get his mind together.  I asked him again to come see him tonight.  He again said he just wants to be left alone and he also said he honesty needs to think if he’s even ready for a relationship. I told him how could he even think that after everything we had talked about including our future.  He just told me he is in a depressed state, mentally just not in a good spot and to get himself together and told me i didn’t do anything wrong. I told him i get it and that im there for him, and no need to shut me  out when we are already are in a relationship, and how sick to my stomach i am over this.   I asked him if he is still coming to my place this weekend and he said one day at a time.  I again asked him for me to come tonight so we can talk and he told me he just wants to be left alone.  He told me its not fair and for me to let him deal with his own crap and needs to be left alone for awhile.  I told him just know that i do love you and im here for you and im not going any where.  He replied ok cool I just need to be  alone for awhile.   Does this mean he broke up with me or just does it mean we are together or what?  I am so confused, hurt and numb by all this.  He wont open up to me.  I literally dont know what to do here!  Part of me jus wants  to go to his house tomorrow night and surprise him regardless.  Im so confused and hurt.

It all began when i was there sunday and his mom literally yelled at him about everything and was calling him names.  You name it she was calling him everything and told him he can come live with me and she will lock him out of he house.   Every since then , he turned completely around on our relationship.   He lives with his mom and his sister.   His mom is cruel.  I try not to judge people cause noone is perfect.   But i felt so awkward and uneasy there that day.  He apologized later for actions.  But again, ever since then…….he changed.

He is also into S&M stuff as to where as i am not.  That seems to bother him too.  I expressed my feelings about it.  He seemed to be ok with it at the time. He did mention it when we talked yesterday about that was one of things that was bothering him too.  He lost his license cause of a DUI from his ex gf at the time which was months ago and hasn’t had time to finish his last 3 classes in due to his work schedule and it will take some time after that to get his license back.  I told him i didn’t mind driving until he got it back.

I am at a loss.   My heart is broken.  All i want is for us to be together.  Any suggestions or has anyone been through a similar situation?

Anita

thank you for your response.  I did basically tell him that.  But i am an over thinker and think the worst.  I don’t want to lose him at all.  I reached out  to my close friend and she told me the same thing to give him time.   Things were going so well that’s the confusing part that I don’t understand.   Then to send me ❤️😘 those emojis.  Does that mean he loves me and we are ok or what ?   I’m just so confused and am upset by all of it knowing that he knows we both don’t hold nothing back.

Yes .  This is a different guy.  I was seeing him few weeks before I knew the last one was ending.  I realize now how I want to be treated which is like a queen.  This guy absolutely adores me.   We are basically inseparable.  Yes I know maybe too soon. But this feels right.  And I do honestly really like this new guy .   We are very open to how we feel with each other.  But I’m afraid what my family may think of his job.