Thank you very much for the sound advice Anita, it was extremely helpful. I may have more questions soon but I’ll update you when something happens 🙂

Thanks again!

Anita,
I believe he’s too hurt by our fighting as we both said some mean things to each other. I especially said some rude things to him that I didn’t mean, and he knows that I didn’t mean them – I told him when we met up and got back together initially. I also think he’s scared of coming back to the relationship and fighting again or being hurt again. As I said, he’s not in a good mindset right now. Also I think this pain is making him stubborn, and he once he makes up his mind he tries to stick to that decision. However, he has changed his mind before (i.e. our meeting when we agreed to try again) so I’m not sure about this being his ‘final’ decision.

Thank you.

Thank you Jessica! I hope you’re doing okay with your breakup.

Anita,
He has paid his ticket in full but I’m yet to pay the rest of my ticket (it’s on lay-by). If I cancel now I lose $1800-$2000, but if I cancel on April 15 I lose $2400-$2500. Either way he loses $2400-$2500. I don’t mind losing the extra $600 or so if it means that the no contact period and leaving Europe out of his mind (it’s currently exam period) will hopefully lead to us going on this trip and maybe even bring us back together. I do want the best for him, and I’ve accepted the breakup and I’ve accepted that I’ve lost him – but that doesn’t mean that I don’t still love him and want him back. I’m not trying to manipulate him. I’m simply trying to fight for him back. Thanks.

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