Hi, I know somewhat of what your going through because I can relate. When you honestly love someone its just so hard….

I also had a boyfriend of 3 years, he decided to leave me a year ago. And ever since then there has been nothing but ambiguity and mind games. He cant exactly let me go, & wants to keep me as a friend for who knows what intention.
I know exactly how you feel insulted. I felt extremely insulted too when my ex says he wants to keep me as a friend but somehow I wasn’t good enough as a lover. Regardless of what your friends tell you, that you shouldn’t contact, you should do what you feel you should do. Friends always say these kind of things and will always be biased to have your back over his, that’s why you should do what you want from your own heart.
Other people donot know how your relationship really was. I read your other posts about the letter or things you wanted to say to him but wanted to wait 3 years later or something.
All I can Say is Breakups are full of Mind games. That’s why relationships are pretty broken after breakups, because of all the ambiguity and mind games.
I think You should go on out, say what you must so that in this way you know that you tried alot and can minimize regrets of things u wished u said . If you want to let him know that you love him, Tell him. if you want to know what he wants from you, Tell him that you want to know his intentions, If what he said hurts you, tell him it hurt you how he broke up with you and left you for somebody else but that You still love him very much but is very hurt but will always love him, don’t act like your not hurt, you just cant play these games that go on and on. Communication is key to any and all relationships.
be honest to each other. Im purty sure he misses you too. But take it slow aswell.

Know what you want and know what he wants, the mind games hurt more than anything and make you guys even more bitter and more drift apart. Remember my sweet darling, it takes suffering and pain and mistakes to make people learn and grow. You have to learn to forgive. Think about the positive to come out of this relationship fall. Maybe you know deep inside part of it was ment to happen. I know for sure my relationship with my mom improved after I was destroyed by ex. As much as I suffered, good did come out of it, I also grew as a person.

• This reply was modified 9 years, 4 months ago by miko.
• This reply was modified 9 years, 4 months ago by miko.