Forum Replies Created
-
AuthorPosts
-
Andrea simoesParticipantThe storm of thoughts is about everything….Will I be left alone…..Whrn will I be at peace and what will be the cost I’ll have to pay….
I am financially stable,have been and will be able to manage home and expenses.Loosing on mental peace.
Andrea simoesParticipantGood morning Anita,
I have been thinking since I posted last, abt am I being clingy towards my bf. Is it that I am expecting too much from him. Is it that it’s only he I have in life so I expect all the attention from him? Am I being a toxic person? When I read other posts in relationship forum here, I found that there are few signs of clingy relationship I am in but I have been expecting a very basic needs a gf can expect. On the other hand, I feel I am pressurizing my bf for all my smaal expections as I have to every time explain him what I need attention in that circumstance or moment. And now, after 2 yrs of such events I am feeling I am loosing my worth, self respect…..As this all shows a sign of a needy gf. I am not even so excited to mssg him now. Since last 4 days he is mssging me 3-4 times q day …..To see my mood basically….But I am neutral, I am not excited, I feel I should walk away from him as he is enjoying his life and me expecting time from him will only make him stressed.
There is a storm of thoughts in my mind Anita. I have got a sense that I am going to end up being alone now.Andrea simoesParticipantThanks Anita for being there. I will post soon.
Andrea simoesParticipantDear Anita,
I am very scared. I don’t know where and how do I start to solve and sort my life. Don’t know should I speak to my parents husband or then bf. My bf doesn’t entertain stressful situations. My husband is immature, according to me. I tried explaining him that I don’t want to have a baby, he says he wants to have it soon, his parents becoming old. I qstn him is it for parents or for us? I keep on thinking how and from which angle should I sort out my life. I feel like dying now.
Andrea simoesParticipantDear Anita,
Thankyou once agn. You have written down my heart in the 2nd paragraph you wrote. I feel, that I won’t be able to manage kids, eventually I will have to face a breakup with my bf. As I will be for the baby. Also I do not like being tied up. So I feel having a baby will keep me tied up, I might end up in frustration, spoiling the childhood of the baby. Either I will b depressed or then the baby’s childhood will be like mine. I feel I am at a stage where I can’t manage my emotional needs and feeling and I am definitely Dependant on others for my emotional satisfaction, then how will I be able to devote myself to my baby if I plan one. I love my independence to the core.
I am scared, rather sure, if I plan a baby I will loose my bf.:(
Andrea simoesParticipantDear Anita,
The answers for your qstns:
Is it at all a possibility for you to not have children with your husband in spite of family pressure?
– yea,I am not been able to have those feelings for having children with my husband. I have told him also that I do feel like having children and Ii won’t untill I get the feeling.is it a possibility for you to get separate and divorce your husband?
– it is possible,but I will be blamed for everything.Are you hoping your married boyfriend will divorce his wife and marry you- is that an option you consider?
– my bf will never divorce his wife,he has a very cute kid. I never want him to hurt his family by divorcing. I don’t intend to marry him.I would like to add, that I feel very stressed with this family pressure and then my bf not been able to love me enough.
Andrea simoesParticipantDear Anita,
Thanks a ton for reverting. You have correctly understood my situation. Answers to your questions:
1) my husband has not forced my for physical much. I have been a responsible wife in terms of managing everything at home. He does not complain abt anything.
2) Yes , now we both are under pressure to plan a family. He and my in-laws and parents are wanting to have a kid,but I don’t want to have kids with him. I don’t even feel good if I start thinking abt me and him getting intimate.
3) I sometime feels I am not suitable for my husband and we are not made for each other. I am completely devoted to my bf now and want him to be with me always. I do take care of my husband except for physical intimacy. I cannot even think abt that. Otherwise I take complete care.Andrea simoesParticipantDear Anita,
I have edited and posted again.Many Thanx.
-
AuthorPosts
Though I run this site, it is not mine. It's ours. It's not about me. It's about us. Your stories and your wisdom are just as meaningful as mine. 