Dear Anita,I’m almost is tears….I feel pity for myself. I am feeling like crying a lot. I am tired and I want to end this feeling of insecurity and pain…..a feeling of helpless girlfriend of a married boyfriend…… A feeling of a helpless human being…. Killing myself iinside

Thanks Anita, I did not say that I do not need emotional support through the divorce. I always needed emotional support all the time. Since my husband did not fulfill that, I was attracted to my current bf.
Taking you back to my ex-boyfriend before marriage….he was too aggressive whenever he had doubt on me.we were so close that I bunked my college for entire graduation period except for my exams. He was insecured as I was beautiful and he is dark. This I was told by his one friend after the breakoff. I dint even know that he was a Marijuana addict. And later after breakoff,I got to know from his sister that he I’d mentally disturbed so had left me. He recovered in 2 years and then called me one day and apologized that he left without a valid reason. We closed on a good note.
I would also like to add many things. I always needed emotional support since childhood. May parents always fought. My dad used to hit my mom all the time and my mom went into depression. This was till my school days and I never used to understand why did my dad hit my mom. Never saw them going along well. I have a brother who kept busy then hanging around with friends. I went to college and entered this relationship with my ex-boyfriend. He was then my mom, dad everything for me. I was blindly in love because I was taken care of about everything by him.we used to meet in morning and he used to leave me close to my house.we both were students then. But then it ended the way I mentioned above.
I look to myself today and feel that I always traded myself for having that emotional comfort. I don’t know what’s going on. I never thought if I am right or wrong, just carried on because it served my emotional needs. I am still learning to be happy with myself and loving self, but can’t get rid of depending on others for happiness or emotional needs.

Dear Anita,

He had said initially that he don’t have emotional connect with his wife. That is she is not matured enough to understand his emotional needs. My boyfriend manages his married life well,spends time with wife and is a good dad as well. But when it comes to physical intimacy he is too much into me. We do not make out for the sake of making out,it’s emotional involvement and soul connect. And at times when we are away from intimacy for months,still we are emotionally connected strongly. He never said but he comes from a very conservative family where marriages are always arrange marriages.
I never expect him to spend on me for material things. But I badly need emotional support.
I understand the importance of family,so I don’t interfere in his family and never try to disturb him when he is with his family. Tomorrow if he would say that he will stop being physically intimate with me,I won’t get much bothered if he wwill have the same emotional connect with me and take care of me. These are my thoughts Anita.

Dear Anita,

I have thought about the wrong in the relationship. But I get emotional support and love in this relationship. As you said that this can harm his son or his married life,it is not like that. I respect them a lot because they are on priority n I always come after them and I have whole heartedly accepted this fact. No second thought on this. We have maintained the line of privacy. But now as m becoming old,m feeling more lonely and expectations are increasing. This never means that you leave your family and come,but yes I expect you to spend the rest of time with me. I have sort of become habitual or you can say addicted to him. What is your thought on this Anita. I know society will not call this right, but me and my boyfriend share this relationship which is helping us grow,it reflects in my confidence,I feel secured and loved.