Dawn,

If it were me in your situation, I could not forgive something like that. Especially after you had found out the woman was married. To me, that is completely disrespectful and is unforgiveable. You are not married and you don’t have any children so cutting the ties early with him won’t be as difficult. I would however think differently if you had been married, children and were with each other quite sometime. I think in that case it would be counseling and a lot of work on both ends of the marriage. You don’t deserve that…. you deserve so much more. I wouldn’t give him the time of day after what he had done. I do however wish you the best and hope you are able to figure out what you want for your future. Good luck!

Heartbrokengurl:

I experienced the same thing actually. I was new to dating (I was married for about 8 years before) and was having this sudden anxiety hit me out of nowhere. I honestly think it has to do with the way we date nowadays. We text, rarely call each other, and everything is basically online. Also when you start dating most people are “talking” to multiple people and will fall off the planet out of nowhere. It usually means they just found someone they thought were better and fit more with them. It wasn’t until I found a genuine, caring, amazing man that all of those feelings stopped. He texted me right back, wasn’t talking to other females and genuinely cared for me. We both just basically found each other. I think that’ll happen in your case, the anxiety goes away when you found someone who WANTS to actually talk to just you and is interested in you. Good luck.

Scott,

Don’t feel bad about these feelings. They are completely normal. I too have experienced them and I am 30 year old female. I was married for 8 years and within the last year divorced. I met a new man whom I adore and things are wonderful. We’ve been seeing each other for 8 months now. Even still I have those feelings arise but they quickly go away. If he doesn’t text back right away or within a few hours I do wonder… I get anxious.. I think about if I had said something that upset him and that’s why he’s not replying. I personally will read positive quotes and I try to focus on myself rather than the other person. I quickly learn that there wasn’t a need for the anxiety because he texted me back or he called me that night and we talked. You have to learn to just let things be.. and for instance you did break up or you did loose her because of something that happened in the relationship you WILL be ok. There’s no IF in that, you will be okay. You are your own person and can go through life alone.

Sylvie,

I also was involved with a narcissist or sociopath. We were married for 8 years and together for almost 12. He was an extremely toxic person to be involved with and literally had my life in turmoil. It was the best thing you could of ever done and you will be thankful once you finally see how much they affect your life. Everything you are worried about will work itself out. You just have to keep faith and know that everything happens for a reason. There was a reason you met this person and there was a reason you built up the courage to get away. Good luck to you in your journey!