Thank you for your advice Angie!

I think the gradual approach is best for me. Slowly, but surely I will feel comfortable in this city.

I do love exercising and going to the gym, so a personal trainer isn’t a bad idea. I’m not sure if I can afford one, but I can look into it.

There is a Zen Buddhist group nearby that I was thinking of visiting. I’m not sure if they have any sessions for newbies though since I’m rather unfamiliar with Zen practices. I currently do meditate every day in the morning and it help, but I would love to join a sangha.

Thank you for your advice.

I do believe it’s time to find a therapist, so I will look around.

I think I needed to hear that I don’t have to put much pressure on myself. I’m really an introvert at heart and it’s difficult for me to make friends. I would like somebody to talk to and hang out with (besides my boyfriend), but I think I’m putting too much pressure on myself and trying to force it.

I like the idea of visiting a new place a week. I work long hours during the weekday, so if I try something on the weekend mid-afternoon (by myself) then I would feel much safer. I just know dealing with this paranoia will be tough, but maybe exposing myself would be helpful.

I joined Meetup in the past, but I’m weary of it. Again, I’m an introvert and paranoid, so it makes me feel nervous to think of going to these group meet ups.