What’s more important, labels or love?

All religions and beliefs work towards the same core values of building family and a better world out of love, the devil – as they say – is in the details.

If either partner chooses to prioritize said details above said core then in my book that’s a mistake. But it’s a mistake which some people have to make. If you still love those people you can try and make them see this, but it is their own choice.

I’d say the best way to guiding them to being enlightened on this is just to allow them to walk their path, and keep walking your own. Stay open to the possibility is could all work out, but also be aware that you can’t force it.

• This reply was modified 9 years, 9 months ago by Alf.

Can never get my head around why someone’s sexuality should be even a slight issue in today’s day and age. Well done Sonia.

You should have knock his frickin’ head off instead! BWATANG!!!!! WHO’S HARDEST NOW BEEYATCH?!?!! BOOM!

:p

Just messing, nice to hear a story where past wounds have been healed by nothing more than acceptance and forgiveness. Well done 🙂

Excellent advise from Matt & The Ruminant.

Cut yourself off from social media Prakhar and go out and meet some new people. It’ll help loads.

Hi Hyo,

Just remember something – it’s usually bullshit. “bad” is a standard placed on things by other members of society and it’s all relative to other things, so saying the “economy” is bad for example doesn’t take into account how awful it was in 5 million BC, and how we got by alright then.

And for those problems which usually exist, as David says, a realistic and obtainable solution is often available, but it’s just not always that easy to obtain either.

People who help others have to be among the strongest out there as there is rarely an end point. there may be moments of success, there may be some real progression which you can always pride yourself on, but helping others by it’s very nature means having to deal with negativity. The key thing is just to do what you can and not judge on results. Someone suicidal and needing your advice? All you can do is give it them, if they still of themselves it’s their choice – you’re just an adviser and so long as you do that with love and genuine intent then that’s all you can do.

Swimming – hardly feels like you’re exercising and very stimulating.

Biking – Just really helps get me in shape quickly.

Yoga/Pilates – fell in love with them over the past few years. Can’t believe how much they help release inner energy and strengthen the body (especially areas which have been injured)

Weight Training – Used to really enjoy it, but a bad back and lack of value placed on self-image has meant I do it more now out of connivance (easy to do at home).

If only I had the time/money/energy to do them more instead of drinking beer and eating cakes! lol

Firstly stop comparing yourself and your situation with others, you’ve walked a totally different path to them to get to where you are, so thinking that you should be doing the same as they are is a bit silly really. If you’re unemployed and without a partner then that’s where you are, the fact that others aren’t there has no relevance to where you are and what you are doing.

Secondly stop trying to think about consequences. Rejection, failure etc. – they’re only possibilities and you simply can’t live life based on what may happen, or else you will certainly miss out on what will happen.

In the wise words of the great sage Nike, “just do it”. Whether the consequences be good or bad is irrelevant – you are in a place you don’t want to be and you need to move on, and you’ll only do that be doing things. Try not to look for peace, just look for things which you are happy with.

Big hugs Cilla.