Today I read this article on decision making called the 10/10/10 rule . ARE you happy or satisfied 10 minutes from now , probably yes , are you happy or satisfied 10 months from now, are you happy or satisfied with your life 10 years from now? Life is short ,if you stay will you regret not going.

It your wedding day be happy, you can’t please everyone . Your marriage is not to based on someone else’s happiness but your own. So if got to cut out some rotten apples to make a good bushel then do so . A wedding day is to celebrate a marriage, and lifetime commitment. Your aunt, in time, will get over her own heartache she caused herself. So feel no blame in others reaction as to what you want for your day . And congratulations and best of wishes to both of you

Although this may not help with your situation but you can really indulge in fantasy rather than reality, have you ever thought about being a writer? I think you could do well in that if you put time and effort. Plus it would give you a hobby to focus on other things, people and ideas instead of focusing on a relationship that never happened. On another note don’t rush after love , you are young take your time enjoy life .

Suicide is never the answer to start with, your letter contains a lot of work that needs to addressed in more than one letter here it is going to take stages. Let’s start by lessing the stress by changing jobs perhaps with dealing with less people, like a night or grave yard shirft. Try to open your self stress free activity like exercise or yoga and meditation. Seek professional help as well if you had not done so.

Slut not south I should prof read my reply better.

You should continue to be friends with him , but at the same time hang out more and get to know him better as well as for him to know you too. Don’t be in a rush. You are young take the time to know one another, lots of times people rush into a relationship only to fizzle or end in divorce because they never took the time to know one another. Speaking from experience with my wife we were friends for 2 and half years before we even decided to take it to the next level. A stronger bond was made unlike past relationships I had in the past . I’m sure you gone through your closet and looked at a shirt and asked your self “why the hell did I buy this ” , you bought it on impulse because you liked it at the time. Same thing happens when you rush a relationship. Good luck and be patient.

A few things that I see here , you only knew him for 6 months, not much time to get to know someone, you are more relationship mature than him, so you expect more he is still learning. His friends are females so yes he has an insight of what women want but not the experience. He most likely missed the connection he had with his friends,so in your jealousy you were controlling him. So he did make sacrifice for youin the beginning but he missed his friends. When you received compliments , it seems he didn’t know how to react that he got jealous, another sign of relationship immature, when in fact he should have been proud or happy for you. Sometimes we need to step back and look at why he or she feels or acts a certain way and not assume because they know better. There is still hope with your relationship with him it’s going to take work . One thing I have learned is to lover yourself more ,you can’t love anyone else unless you learn to love yourself.

Abuse ,physical or emotional dose not happen every day when you’re in abusive relationship. So honestly your still in abusive relationship. It happens less now because you see each other less , what happens if you move back in with each other, will it start again ?, has he done anything to change, and most likely he blames you for his actions, which you seem to buy into just knowing how a lot of bad relationships work. So yes your friends are right you are setting your self up for more bad mojo. You may see the good in him but you have also seen ,heard , and felt the bad parts of him . And only he can change himself if he chooses , you cannot change someone. You need to love your self more and think how do you want to live your life , as someone who is willing to put up with abuse , or someone who is going to live a life carefree of not living with that kind of stress.