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To everyone thanks for all the support, and love be with you all. I have had ups and downs. I fell into an abusive relationship which ended around a month ago. I lost a lot of mutual friends as they did not believe anything that I said, there were a lot of untrue rumors spread about me by my previous partner. All my mutual friends took her side even though I was nothing but kind and supportive. I do not take the role of victim often, but in this case I was used and it drained all my energy again. It unfortunately left a blemish on an otherwise positive period. It’s been hard to lose so many friends and for them to assume that because I am a man that I must be in the wrong. But other than that I am happy to read your messages things have mostly been positive and things look up <3
Kind regards Alex
AlexParticipantIt’s been over a year since this article, Love to all the people that helped me get back on my feet. Life’s a lot better now.
Kind regards Alex
AlexParticipantHey there Kate, Iâm sorry to hear about your heartbreak your story of your relationship is very similar to mine that ended 7 months ago. It left me feeling almost exactly the same as you. People often assume guys arenât as sincere as women etc. But someone doesnât just fall out of love with you in 2 days. I think time and thinking in retrospective might actually reveal some flaws in the relationship. I mean you mentioned he was almost sociopathic with his lack of emotions. Even though you may love him still and a part of you may always hurt. You canât commit to someone who has doubts itâs unhealthy and you need to think of yourself. Try channel your hurt into something productive and try to focus on both positives and negatives of the relationship that will help you get through this.
AlexParticipantItâs just I am close with my stepbrother and he still has contact so I know she will say stuff about me to him. So it just complicates things to be perfectly honest.
AlexParticipantHey Anita, my mother is emotionally abusive. She would try manipulate me saying things like âHow could you do this to your motherâ even though she has never done anything for me and put me in dangerous situations. She would flip it on me and try turn everyone against me. Even though just trying to get space. She only cares about what she wants. I constantly get calls even though I say I donât want to talk to her, She has also never apologised or even talked about the past. She did one time but she flipped it on me saying. âSorry I left but I donât deserve this your horrible to me and a shit sonâ. Iâve given up on trying to make our relationship work, why should I keep forgiving her when she has showed zero remorse for what she put me through.
AlexParticipantThanks to everyone that has helped I feel a lot better, glad some people were touched by my story â¤ď¸
AlexParticipantHey everyone I want to make it clear Iâm fine, I felt suicidal a couple of hours ago. But they are just passing thoughts, like I donât want to make anyone worried. Itâs life, we all have trials and tribulations, How else to we grow as people?
AlexParticipantThanks to everyone who has replied, I understand a bit better now. I will see a trauma therapist like suggested, itâs not all bad though I have life experience well beyond my years. Which I try turn into positivity, making a documentary on mental illness as we speak. I feel the same way you people do. I try put a more positive spin on my past. I know the journey will not be easy and that I will have weak moments but I know there isnât any circumstance I canât conquer. Much love to everyone  â¤ď¸
AlexParticipantThank you for replying Anita, I am looking at therapy but it isnât easy to have the strength to talk about these things so posting on here has now given me more confidence to see preofessionals. I have limited contact with my mother as i will get a lot of abuse for cutting contact. I try turn the negative feelings I feel into positivity. I understand sadness is intertwined with happiness so I try to look at the positives. I am blessed to have looked death in the eyes and won. Thank you for reaching out â¤ď¸
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